Unfortunately, many marriages fall apart due to the interference of parents in the privacy of their children. In order not to ruin her daughter's life, the mother-in-law must learn to love her son-in-law, or at least accept him as he is.
Instructions
Step 1
Don't be jealous of your daughter to her husband. Often, the mother-in-law's interference in the family life of the young is associated with jealousy: it seems to the mother that the son-in-law is taking away the love and attention of her child, destroying the relationship between them. Understand: having married, a girl does not cease to be a daughter and does not begin to treat her parents worse. Yes, she loves her husband, but she loves you too. When you understand this, your attitude towards your son-in-law will surely change for the better.
Step 2
Stop patronizing your daughter. Parents sometimes think that their children always remain children, regardless of age. Do not interfere in the life of the young: they are already adults and will be able to sort out their relationships on their own. Only give advice when asked to do so. A good son-in-law will be able to appreciate the wisdom of his mother-in-law and will try to win your favor.
Step 3
Think about why your daughter fell in love with her husband. Maybe he is a caring, good family man, a jack of all trades, smart, knows how to protect his family? Find his positive qualities and try to love your son-in-law for who he is. Do not focus on its shortcomings: every person has them, and your daughter's husband is no exception.
Step 4
If conflicts often arise between you and your son-in-law, try to talk to him, analyze the situation. Don't insult or criticize, just have a quiet conversation. As a result, you will be able to understand how to behave with your son-in-law, and he - how to treat you. When you stop annoying each other, it will be much easier to love your son-in-law.
Step 5
Change your attitude towards your daughter's husband. Try to see him not as a stranger who took your child from you, but as a son. Understand: he is the chosen one of your daughter, the father of your grandchildren. Accept him the way you would accept your own son, with all his merits and demerits. Let your brother-in-law call you mom: it will strengthen your relationship.
