Peaceful family coexistence usually comes with experience. Young people lack the wisdom in understanding each other's actions. Not enough patience and tolerance. Love temporarily expands the boundaries of consciousness and shows us in the eyes of our loved ones the most beautiful creatures in the world. But how to keep these feelings clean and not be buried under the burden of everyday problems of family life?
Each person grows up in their own unique environment, where certain patterns of behavior are practiced, specific sets of tasks are performed on a daily basis. When creating a new family, two people bring into it their habits, worked out over the years. And these habits, more often than not, are dissimilar.
To live in harmony with your beloved you need to learn:
- Appreciate your loved one for his uniqueness: there is no other such in the world. Who knows how long each of you will live on the planet, and how long you will be together. Do not be under the illusion that your relationship is eternal and unchanging. Everything flows and everything changes. Regardless of anyone's desire.
- Do not try to customize the person for yourself. You will either break it, turning it into a “rag”, or you will part with the scandal.
- Pay attention to the virtues, praise the other for them sincerely. Then he will strive to become even better.
- Do not scold your loved one for shortcomings. Believe me, he himself knows about them.
- Create a personal space in your home for yourself and your significant other. Let it be even a small corner: an armchair, a desk, but each has its own.
- Give each other a secluded getaway at least a couple of times a month. Especially if you are constantly in close contact with people: at home, on the road, at work.
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Each of you should have your own hobby. Yes, it's great to spend all the time with your loved one, but some things need to be shared. The sooner you understand this, the stronger your family will become. And in old age it will not be lonely when your children leave you.
- Do not interfere with another in his passion for any business. Better to ask when he is ready to pay attention to you, and wait patiently.
- Respect the interests of the other. Your interests are neither better nor more important. The importance of something is a purely subjective thing. Proving the importance of one thing and the uselessness of another is a thankless and destructive business at its core.
- Divide household responsibilities wisely. Do not use stereotypes of society about the family. If a guy likes to stand by the stove, and a girl likes to wield a screwdriver, so be it. Discuss what each of you hates more about these responsibilities, and take on less unpleasant ones. Honestly share things that are equally hateful to both parties, or agree on their alternate implementation.
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Discuss problems in a relaxed atmosphere. Look for a middle ground in solutions. Do not prove your case by shouting, fights, ultimatums or other means of manipulation. Dramas, of course, add spice and flavor to life, but they also destroy it.
- Spend time together, completely carried away by each other, then your love will only grow stronger with age.
By observing the above principles, you can fill your family life with joy and harmony.
