There are not many things in life that are as traumatic as divorce. This not only destroys the bond between lovers, but also destroys the family. If you find that your marriage is about to fall apart, you need to take matters into your own hands to avoid it. Be prepared to resort to tough measures, and you will need a lot of patience and strength.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, both partners need to admit that a conflict has matured between them, and it needs to be resolved as soon as possible. Often, one of the partners thinks that everything will work out somehow. This is what rocks the boat even more and prevents the couple from making a decision to remedy the situation.
Step 2
It is necessary to investigate the reasons that may have led to this situation. When you communicate and discuss your problems, remember that you need to speak in turn, do not interrupt, and then there will be a chance for your partner to express their thoughts.
Step 3
Be clear about what upsets you and why. It is not always worth keeping your feelings inside - this can only aggravate the current situation. In addition, it would be unfair to expect the other person to read your thoughts and appreciate what you are feeling inside. When everything is revealed, you may be surprised how much you both did not know about the feelings and perceptions of each other.
Step 4
Be careful when discussing sources of conflict. Don't get caught up in an endless cycle of accusations. Try to refrain from statements starting with "you", for example, "you do not appreciate me" or "you sit too much at the computer." All of this say, "If my work was appreciated, I would feel better being married" or "It would mean so much to me if we spent more time together."
Step 5
After finding the source of the conflict, try to find a solution. Easier said than done, of course, but still possible. In the end, keep in mind that each spouse will have to take on some amount of responsibility. Everyone should take the time and effort to make some changes to their priorities and principles.
Step 6
If in the end, despite all your efforts, it seems to you that you are not at all close to a solution, then you should seek professional help. A family psychologist works wonders and resolves conflicts in difficult situations. He has an impartial view, he will be able to resolve the conflict and give the necessary advice on how to avoid divorce.
