Sometimes mom allows something, and dad forbids the same thing, or the child is not allowed to do what was previously allowed. It may be an option when the child is already big for cleaning the room, and small for independent walks. How does double standards in upbringing affect children?
Instructions
Step 1
A child grows up to be a manipulator, especially if the discord in relationships, requirements and approaches to upbringing occurs not with parents, but between generations. Then there is no need to listen to mom and dad, you can wait for your grandmother (it’s very good if she lives in the same house or nearby) and she will resolve everything.
Step 2
The older generation does not understand that it unconsciously undermines the authority of young parents. Therefore, the younger generation needs to be more persistent with their parents and grandmothers, as they pamper your child, and you need to educate and correct pedagogical errors.
Step 3
However, with all such permissive relatives, a sweet and obedient child does not stay for long. The kid will start experimenting, looking for the boundaries of what is permitted. Therefore, soon your child and grandmothers will become even more hysterical and demand the impossible from them.
Step 4
The absence of a firm hand scares the child, makes him disorganized. Therefore, when grandmothers see that the baby has begun to constantly hysteria, they give it to the parents and accuse those of having spoiled the child.
Step 5
Therefore, it is strongly recommended to adhere to the same upbringing tactics and requirements for the child, to consult among themselves in choosing a punishment or reward for a particular act, so that the child realizes that if dad forbids, mom will take his side and demand what she wants will be useless.
Step 6
Also, you can not frighten the baby with "third parties" - a nurse with an injection, a bad uncle, a "babayka". It turns out that you will not protect the child from them in case of need? And the second is also manipulation, but already on your part, that is, this is how you yourself teach your baby such behavior. Raising children is a very difficult process, it is impossible to go through it without mistakes, however, you can reduce their number as much as possible.
