Transitional age is a phrase that echoes like a nightmare in the hearts of some parents. Some have already gone through this period, others are just ahead, but they are already afraid of its coming. There are so many horrible stories and its dangers and difficulties, but can you avoid them, can you cope with the transitional age? Of course yes.
Instructions
Step 1
A person goes to the transitional age, as well as to any crisis stage, his whole life, and therefore it is worth preparing for it in advance. Raise your child so that he does not feel the pressure of your authority, be not a mentor for him, but a person you can trust.
Step 2
Don't try to get your child to share their concerns with you. This will not lead to anything, except that he will simply close from you, and in the period of adolescence, he will only go into his world more strongly. Show the opportunity and importance of support, trusting conversations by your example. If from an early age you will be open with your child, then he will open up to meet you, and in a transitional age you will not face the problem of suppressing or hiding certain actions.
Step 3
Don't force your child to live with the threat of punishment. Very often children do not admit to something out of fear that they will be scolded. This method of upbringing only leads to the fact that they not only do not unlearn the bad, but, on the contrary, begin to do it more often: they lie, hide, do not tell. You should always be on the side of the child, try to understand the reasons for his actions, figure it out. Do not rush to judge, perhaps he had his own motives for this or that act. Always try to discuss the situation with your child and find a way out together.
Step 4
Don't pounce on him with questions about all the details of his life. The transitional age is the time when he tries to prove his independence, to stand out, to show his individuality, but does not yet know how. Give him the opportunity to find himself, to experiment. Often in a transitional world, parents tighten their restrictions in the fear that their child will fall into the wrong company, start smoking, drinking, and skipping school. Of course, you should not completely leave the child unattended and leave everything to his discretion. But learn to trust your teenager, let him try, make mistakes, learn from life. If you showed respect and trust to him from an early age, he himself will come to you for advice and ask your opinion, he will tell you if problems arise. Make him feel like an adult at home so that he does not have to resort to extreme ways of demonstrating his independence.
