If earlier marriage was a natural thing, now young people are beginning to doubt whether they need it. What are the pros and cons of marriage? Why does a modern man need a stamp in his passport?
First of all, marriage is a responsibility. Responsibility not only for yourself, but also for your wife, as well as children who will appear in the near future.
Many do not understand why they need to marry, if intimacy can be found on the side with almost any girl they like. The house can be cleaned by a housemaid, and it is quite possible to eat in a cafe. It’s even cheaper than keeping a wife. And most importantly, no responsibility! Live as you want, come whenever you want, do what you want. Doesn't owe anyone anything.
Wrong reasons for getting married
Recently, more and more often marriages are concluded for one of several reasons:
- Unplanned pregnancy;
- Strong passion;
- Environmental pressure;
- Manipulation of the chosen one.
As people begin to approach marriage as something temporary, the divorce rate is on the rise. More and more children grow up without fathers who do not want to be responsible. And this is very sad. The marriage of two adults should be a deliberate and balanced decision. And only then can you become happy for life.
Native person
If the choice of a companion is made correctly, not in a hurry, you automatically acquire an ally for yourself. Don't look at the wrapper. Appearances are often deceiving. The most important thing is that your souls are dear.
A loving wife is a man's inspiration. This is his source of energy. She will always be there, support when everything collapses. Will not let you lose heart. A wise woman will make you successful and happy.
The wife will rejoice with you when things go uphill. This is the only person after his parents who will not envy and gloat. Because now you are one. Your failures are her failures.
End of romance?
There is a statement that after the stamp is in the passport, the romance ends. The wife automatically becomes angry and unkempt, and the husband is called all the bad words that were said to the male representatives.
Naturally, if after going to the registry office you both immediately begin to behave disrespectfully towards each other, nothing good will come of it. If you consider your wife solely as a free housekeeper, few people will like it.
Everything depends on you! If you really love your chosen one, if you want her to be happy, just please her more often. A bunch of flowers by chance, an invitation to a cafe, feasible help around the house. Trust me, she will appreciate it. And you will never lose your girl in love, who will always look at you with admiration. A woman is naturally very gentle, let her feel protected by your side.
The pros of getting married
- The beloved woman is always there. You fall asleep and wake up together.
- After marriage, you become one. Now you are a family, you have everything in common. Yours and mine only concern personal hygiene items, clothes and shoes.
- You have an assistant who will carry out assignments with full responsibility, because in the end everything is done for yourself.
- Together, it is much easier to deal with bad habits acquired before the wedding.
- They are always waiting for you at home, they are worried about you, you are loved and greeted with joy.
- Legal children appear only in a registered marriage. These are your heirs, for whom you, as a man, are responsible. You can, of course, just fit into the column "father" and do without a wedding, but be sure that the child, when he grows up, will ask a question about different surnames with his mother.
- Regular sex life with the only woman you trust is also a plus. Not every sensible girl will agree to be in the role of mistress for many years. Marital fidelity is the best defense against various sexually transmitted diseases.
Cons of getting married
The desire for freedom, promiscuous sexual intercourse and the desire to do what you want, leads to divorce, or an unwillingness to marry at all.
- If you are not moving forward, you are not standing still, but moving backward. Family life is like an escalator. If you don't work on the relationship, everything becomes monotonous, boring, and eventually falls apart.
- You cannot live in a family only for yourself.
- Official relations are not only financial costs, but also moral ones.
- Children are generally very expensive. You will either have to think about how to earn more or work harder. Or maybe even start saving.
- All friends got married, no one lives happily - this is like a reason to think about whether to get married. Although, in fact, this is a reason to understand that the problem of unsuccessful marriages is only in the selfishness of one or both partners.
If you want to grow spiritually, become better, stronger, take responsibility and become a better husband and father, get married. Otherwise, do not make yourself, your spouse and children unhappy, who will appear in the course of the relationship.
