They say that everyday life kills the family. But now, when the infrastructure of the service sector is developed, when laundries, car services, kindergartens, fast food, delivery services are always available to families, it is still difficult to maintain a relationship. So it’s not about everyday life? Yes, not in it. More precisely, not quite in it.
Instructions
Step 1
The secret of family well-being - if everyday life "jams" and there is no strength to continue a full-fledged marital relationship, shift some of the work to hired or volunteer helpers. For example, if there is no way to take and bring a child to kindergarten, you can hire a driver, nanny, ask relatives or even friends - the latter can offer a small reward. And volunteers - your children - can help around the house. Even if your children are small, they can still take on some of the responsibility, and your family will have more time to relax and spend time together.
Step 2
The secret is to calculate your strength. There is no need to enroll children in 33 circles, even if each of them brings "undoubted benefits." Don't have a dog in a studio apartment. Do not take a weekend job unless you are in dire need of money. All this leads to a decrease in strength, an increase in stress - and, as a result, to a cooling of relations between spouses.
Step 3
The secret is trust. You and your spouse need to learn to trust your friend. You must trust your partner even your innermost thoughts and desires. There is no need to be afraid of frank conversations, even if it is embarrassing or scary to bring up the topic. It is bad if the family ignores the interests of one of the spouses or if one suppresses the other with his influence.
Step 4
The secret is to solve problems within the family. Do not create coalitions with relatives, do not share with your parents how your husband has offended you or how your wife does not know how to speak. All misunderstandings need to be resolved "get-together". And no quarrels in front of the children - they will quickly tell everything to their grandparents, and they will hasten to reconcile the “warring parties”.
Step 5
Secret - consider each other's personal space. Sometimes every person needs to be alone. But it's not only that. Personal space also includes interests. If your soulmate has weaknesses or traditions - for example, to go to the bathhouse with friends on New Year's Eve, then you do not need to prohibit this. And if you yourself and yourself do not like something from the hobbies of your partner - do not participate in this, but do not condemn.
