If we are talking about feelings, it is assumed that they relate to a person close to you, because there are no feelings for someone who is indifferent to you. The people you want to talk to about your feelings can be your parents, friends, or spouse. In any case, it is better to discuss your relationship than to hide your dissatisfaction in yourself, getting angry and not knowing the response.
Instructions
Step 1
Before you start talking about feelings, analyze the situation and answer yourself to the questions: “What happened? What doesn't suit me? What I want? What do I think about this? If it is important for you to show your feelings, then do not hide them and share them with your interlocutor.
Step 2
In order for your loved one to hear and understand you, you must realize that you are two different people and your interlocutor may simply have a different view and treat something quite differently from you. Therefore, your task is to clearly and clearly explain to him why you have certain feelings, resentments and misunderstandings.
Step 3
If you want to ask your interlocutor about something, then the wish should not sound in the form of a complaint or accusation, but as a request for help. Be specific about how the person can help you.
Step 4
If your feelings are expressed in the form of confusion, chagrin, or insecurity, they will be perceived less critically, and it’s better to say “It makes me angry when you throw your socks around” than “You are a slob and throw your socks around”. Use first-person messages in your wishes. The phrases “I need you to help me” and “You are not helping me at all” sound quite differently.
Step 5
If your task is simply to express yourself, then, of course, you should not pay attention to the form of presenting your claims and ensure yourself the completeness of self-expression. But if you want to be heard, then every word must be carefully chosen.
Step 6
We hope that in your relationship there are not only negative feelings, so if you experience a feeling of love, pride and pleasure from the actions and behavior of a person close to you, then please do not hesitate to tell him about it, maybe then situations will arise less often with the expression of mutual claims.
