Life does not fit into the framework of moral codes and traditions shaped by public opinion. And often, along with single mothers, single fathers began to come across. There is nothing terrible or bad in this - this is reality. However, if you decide to date such a man, the decision made can make life much more difficult and even more interesting than you would like it to be.
Instructions
Step 1
If the child does not remember his mother, it is enough to make a positive impression on him when meeting him. To do this, it is necessary to consult with a man in advance in order to find out as much as possible the psychological portrait of the baby, that is, his character, tastes, addictions, what he loves and what he hates.
Step 2
If the child remembers the mother, your task becomes much more difficult. The most difficult case is when he, keeping in his memory the image of an absent mother, over time idealizes him. The worse he remembers her, the more generously he endows with positive qualities. In principle, it is impossible to win such a competition, and you shouldn't even try. Opposing yourself to an absent mother is a deliberately disastrous move.
Step 3
The most advantageous situation is a casual acquaintance on neutral territory. Moreover, the best option is in a company where other people are present. Here we should take into account a cunning feature of the child's psyche - when a child sees one woman next to his father, he compares her to an absent mother. If there are several of them, in most cases (although not always, of course) the son or daughter tries them on as a mother, since subconsciously any child strives for a complete family. You are quite capable of such a competition - involve him in the game, introduce him to your child (in his presence). If the children become friends, consider half the problem solved.
Step 4
At first, do not show the man obvious signs of attention with the baby, this is necessary in order not to provoke the child's jealousy. A sense of ownership lives in children. That, however, will not cancel a kiss on the cheek when they meet.
Step 5
Do not seek to immediately impose your love on the child, especially if it is not already there. It is much more important to win his respect, recognition and, ultimately, friendship and trust. And this foundation, believe me, is capable of withstanding a lot. Perhaps already now some will think - "do I need it?" Indeed, it all comes down to how much you need this particular man. If it's worth it, then go for it!
