Many parents do not know at all whether they are raising their teenager correctly or not and what their educational process can turn out to be. So, in order to avoid serious problems, you need to know the methods of raising a teenage child.
The difficult problem of parenting adolescents
As usual, upbringing is a purposeful influence on a maturing person in order to form certain qualities in him. Raising adolescents is, of course, a very difficult task that parents need to solve. Distinctive qualities of adolescence: an increasing desire for independence, a sense of maturity, a desire for sovereignty and self-expression, the advantage of the authority of friends over the authority of parents - forcing adolescents to rebel against almost everything. Of course, parents who are ignored by their children find it difficult to accept these changes.
How to build a conversation with a teenager?
It is difficult to conduct a dialogue with teenagers, but it can be done. There are such ideal families where raising a teenager is simple and painless for parents and children, where they later remember teenage problems with laughter and become good friends and dearest people forever. You need to try, if you don't go through this period easily, then at least get closer to this perfection.
Let us analyze how the way of communication established in the family affects the upbringing of adolescents.
In a dictatorial style, when all issues in the family, including those in relation to the teenager, are unquestioningly controlled by the wishes of the parents, the child's independence is sharply reduced. Strict control, harsh punishments and reprimands lead to big problems. This is not surprising, such a reaction of a teenager is understandable, because the most important features of adolescence are a sense of maturity and a desire for independence. Insecure children acquire independence and a tough character, active and intense children become aggressive and strive to leave the parent's nest as soon as possible in order to get rid of the close attention of their parents.
With a democratic way of communication in the family, responsibility and initiative of children are welcomed, they take an active part in solving family issues, they can express their opinion. Of course, this is a more correct and positive approach to the upbringing of adolescents, but it is necessary to understand the difference between permissive and democratic methods of communication. In a democratic way, parents show firmness in the most serious issues, care about order and justice, and in the second case, the child is not prohibited from anything or he is capable of neglecting their advice. And if the democratic style builds social responsibility and amateur performance, then connivance leads to the fact that teenagers become selfish, they reject those people who do not satisfy their whims.
