A special place in the work of parents with children should be occupied by the child's relationship with peers. When explaining the nature of actions or attracting attention to negative manifestations in relations with peers, it is important for parents to rely on the presence of positive traits in the child. Children should constantly feel that parents are worried not only about their success in acquiring various skills and abilities, but also about the parents' steady attention to the personal qualities and properties of children, to relationships with peers, and to emotional attitudes towards other people.
By raising our children, we believe that they will grow up to be like their parents. Unlike an adult, a child cannot hide his true feelings for the behavior of the people around him. Under certain conditions, he expresses his attitude towards people quite frankly. Creating a certain situation, if we pay attention to how the child behaves, we will see the features of his character. By the behavior of the baby, it is not difficult to determine whether positively or negatively, he responds to the problems of his peer. Analyzing the child's experience, evaluate his personal qualities. Noting the problems of his character, push him to the desire to change for the better.
In the kindergarten, Vova had a favorite toy, a red sports car, when he came to the group, he immediately ran to her and played with enthusiasm, a game he had invented himself. Once, having come to the kindergarten, Vova found that his beautiful car was in the hands of another boy, his name was Alyosha. Without thinking twice, Vova connects to Alyosha, and together they come up with a new game, even more interesting. The boys are great, they did not find out who should be the first to play with a typewriter, they found a solution that suited both.
Katya and her mother were returning home from kindergarten, Katya was silent for a long time, then suddenly asked: - Mom, why the girls in the group don't want to play with me? - Probably, you came to the group recently, and the girls have known each other for a long time, maybe you, Katya, need to take the initiative yourself. Try to offer the girls an interesting game that they haven't played yet. You will definitely find yourself girlfriends if you are always ready to offer your friendship. We parents need to promptly prompt the strategy of behavior, to our children, for this we need to be ready to always listen to them.
Late in the evening, after a hard day at work, you took your son out of the kindergarten, tired, you go home together. I don't really want to talk, but my little son enthusiastically tells you some story that happened to him today. Anton enthusiastically told his mother how he had a fight with the boy, whom he had been afraid of before. Mom asked why Anton was sorting out the relationship with the boy, what did they not share? It turned out that Anton took the ball she was playing with from Katya, the girl began to cry, and Kostya stood up for the girl. Mom has a reason to think, try to explain to Anton that he did the wrong thing, take away toys is not right, especially from girls. Kostya is a fine fellow, he acted like a real man, stood up for the girl.
Children quite early begin to respond to the assessment of their personality, individual properties and qualities. They often turn to their parents with the disturbing question: "Am I behaving well?" Therefore, your assessment should in no way suppress, but rather induce the child to feel what is "good" and "bad" in relation to some act done by him.
We, of course, want to see our children happy, in order to realize this desire in life, we must pay attention to their inner state, from the very first years of life. Due to our busyness, we leave parenting for a later time, hoping that it is not too late. In the rapid flow of our life, you need to look for time to communicate with your children, to understand the reason, if possible, correct it, then you will be sure that you have done everything you could for your child. We risk losing that thin thread that connects us with them, and they will not be able to find a common language with the society in which they will live.
