Parents are often very afraid of the moment when a child will come up to them and start asking frank questions. It is difficult to find the correct answers to them, but they cannot be ignored either, because he can get the information he needs in other ways.
Necessary
- - a book about the relationship between a man and a woman, adapted for children
- - desire to communicate with your child
Instructions
Step 1
Children learn the first concepts of the division of people into men and women at an early age, when they see the people around them. If a child grows up in a complete family where there is a mom and dad, then this information is immediately postponed for him and becomes the norm. A baby can see a clearer line by chance on TV or by becoming an unwitting witness to intimate scenes between parents. In this case, you should not keep silent, but you need to talk to him, tell him that this is a manifestation of love between adults.
Step 2
If a child went to kindergarten, it is quite possible that after a while other children can tell him some intimate details. Of course, this information will be very different from reality, and the children's perception is completely different, but it is imperative to discuss this with your baby. With such conversations, a small child does not yet need to know the physiological details of the relationship, it is necessary to deal more with spiritual qualities. The process of giving birth to a baby can be explained by the strong love between dad and mom and a great desire to have children. Stories about storks and cabbage in modern children will no longer work, only if they are very young. At the initial stage, this information is quite enough, you just need to present it beautifully.
Step 3
When the child grows up a little, the intimate topic will again become relevant to him. He will already begin to be interested in the questions of how he got into the stomach, how he got out of there, etc. It is important not to run away from the conversation at this time, otherwise the thread of trust can be lost forever. If this period has come at 6-7 years old, it is quite possible to give him special literature adapted for his age. There, in a very simplified form, the physiological process is described, pictures are shown of how the baby grows in the stomach. Also, you should definitely focus on the fact that parents should love each other, be married, and only in this case everything will happen.
Step 4
With the advent of the Internet, many children learn very early information that is unnecessary for their age. Therefore, at home it is worth putting protection against such sites, restricting access to the network. Of course, this cannot be completely avoided, but it is quite possible to minimize it. Moreover, if the child already knows this from you, then it will not be so interesting to him.
Step 5
When adolescence comes, you yourself need to take the initiative for a frank conversation, if the child has not taken the first step. By this time, he most likely already knows enough, you just need to help him navigate this information, talk about the consequences. It is very important with such a conversation to find the right wave, help your child to open up and not be ashamed of this topic. After all, if he does not trust you, he can do a lot of stupid things. It is important to convey to him that you cannot rush things and try to enter into an intimate relationship with the first person you meet. At the same time, it is very important to have feelings for each other so that there is no severe disappointment. It is definitely worth discussing in detail the safety in this process. If the child is worried about some details, do not be afraid, say everything you know, and if there are difficulties, then read special books.
Step 6
If a child prioritizes feelings over a physical need, then he is much less likely to get burned. Teach him to respect himself and others, as well as strive and develop in life, build good trusting relationships with each other, then it will be much easier for you to survive the teenage period of the child. And do not blame the child for mistakes if he came to tell you about it, otherwise he will not tell you anything else next time. It is much easier to control the situation when you are aware of all the events.
