People often take an oath of eternal love and loyalty to each other. And they sincerely hope that everything will be so. However, not everyone is capable of maintaining such a relationship until his death … In recent years, loyalty has again "become fashionable." The reason lies not only in the fear of AIDS and other STDs, but in conviction. After all, it is so important to know that there is a person nearby whom you can trust. But how to behave if your loved one has changed?
Instructions
Step 1
Try to make sure that the man is cheating on you. If this is confirmed, keep yourself in control and do not panic, although it is not easy. In no case do not scandal and do not throw tantrums - such behavior will not lead to anything good, but will only inflame the situation.
Step 2
If your husband has cheated, but does not want to destroy the family and lose you, think about what prompted him to cheat. Maybe you deny your spouse sex, pay little attention or take too much care of him? You must understand the mistakes and try to fix them.
Step 3
If a man did not just cheat, but fell in love with another woman and wants to be with her, let him go. Do not take revenge on your beloved and his new passion. After all, this will not lead to anything good and, possibly, will return to you like a boomerang. Also, do not beg him to stay and do not blackmail him, for example, with children. Remember, when you are apart, your spouse may realize that he feels bad without a family. Then he will return and ask for forgiveness. In this case, only you can make a decision, and further relations will depend only on you.
Step 4
Listen to the advice of psychologists. Here are some of them: - Do not mourn the old, happy times, as trying to return to the past is pointless. After all, a man who has changed is not at all the person with whom you were so happy. If you want to revive love, first of all change yourself, and only then go to restore the relationship. - Do not expel your spouse from your life. If you want to keep a man, don't make him “emotionally homeless”. Neglect will not lead to a favorable resolution of the situation - Talk to your husband. Don't turn your back on him in anger and resentment. Hold on to Each Other If You Want to Save the Relationship - Do not blame your partner for what happened. Give him the opportunity to calmly analyze the situation. After all, this is very important for the future relationship. - Do not turn into a passive victim. A new situation may well arise from constant conflicts and their resolution.
Step 5
Of course, you may well leave your husband, or you can come to terms with his betrayal and live, taking it for granted. But think about whether you should maintain such a relationship? Some of the fair sex forgive cheating, guided by the conventional wisdom, which says: "All men go to the left." Someone put up with this for the sake of children. Weigh the pros and cons and make the only right decision.
