There are guys who really do not like heart-to-heart conversations with their halves. They will find many ways to avoid conversations because they find such conversations dangerous and unnecessary. If you want to talk frankly with your partner, you will have to try.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, you need to worry in advance about how to create the appropriate atmosphere for the upcoming conversation. If a man is hungry or has not yet come to his senses after work, do not be offended by monosyllabic answers. Give him time so that he can get the work out of his head. Then he will be ready to listen carefully to you.
Step 2
More often than not, girls who want to talk frankly with their boyfriends make the same common mistake. They start the conversation with the killer phrase: "We need to talk." In such a situation, men are prone to panic; possible scenarios are immediately scrolled in their head: you want to leave him, you are pregnant, or something even more frightening. If there are problems in your relationship, and you want to discuss ways to solve them with your boyfriend, look for workarounds. For example, he did not behave in the best way towards you, and you want to get to the bottom of the reason for this behavior. Begin to remember the time when you were truly happy, and then naturally ask a philosophical question: "I wonder why everything has changed so recently …". This approach can lead the guy to a more constructive conversation.
Step 3
Choose your words carefully during the conversation. Remember that overly emotional coloring in a conversation can make a guy panic. Try to avoid the following words: "future", "past", "sorry", "goodbye", "late", "needs", "more", "someone" …
Step 4
When talking with your partner, you should consider male psychology and an analytical mind. For example, you should not ask a lengthy question: “What are you feeling now?”, Rather ask: “What are you thinking about now?”. This simple method really works.
Step 5
Another common female mistake is to stare into the eyes of your chosen one during a conversation. Believe me, men feel uncomfortable with such a look. It's important for guys to feel protected too, and in this situation, you don't give him any chance to do so. It is best to start a heart-to-heart conversation in bed, preferably after intimacy: closeness of bodies, no annoying glances - in such a situation, you can be frank. In addition, when a man hugs you, he feels protected, realizing that the situation is under his control.
