Parents' divorce is a tragedy not only for themselves. In most cases, all relatives suffer from it: the parents of the breaking up couple, relatives. And the main thing is that children suffer very acutely. No matter how deep the parents' disagreements were before the breakup, every effort should be made to protect the child's nervous system and help him survive the divorce.
Instructions
Step 1
No matter how hard it is in your soul, pay more attention to your child. During the divorce, he really needs the attention and love of both parents.
Step 2
Be honest with your child. Silence and secrecy do not contribute to overcoming psychological difficulties after a divorce. But never arrange a loud showdown with a child.
Step 3
Don't rip your bad mood off on your child. Do not act out on the little man for the insults that your spouse has inflicted on you.
Step 4
Explain to your child that he is not to blame for your separation, that your relationship will not affect your attitude towards him in any way, that dad and mom love and will love him as before.
Step 5
Do not blame your spouse for all the troubles. When explaining to your child the reasons for the breakup, do not blame your ex. When the baby grows up, he will figure it out himself.
Step 6
Do not involve the child in resolving the conflict between the parents, forcing the child to take the side of one of you. Such manipulations have a bad effect on his psyche and will surely return you like a boomerang.
Step 7
Try to do everything to maintain a human relationship with your ex-spouse. Encourage him to interact with the child. The child should be able to seek help from either parent, even if one of them lives separately.
Step 8
If you are starting a new family, do not ask your child to love his stepmother or stepfather. Let the new spouse do his best to be a good friend to your son or daughter.
Step 9
If you cannot cope with the psychological problems of the child yourself after the divorce, seek help from specialists. If the baby does not tell you about his experiences, then this does not mean at all that they are not. The psychologist will help the child speak up, talk about the problems that bother him, will not allow him to withdraw into himself.
Step 10
Do not go to extremes, crippling yourself, your once beloved spouse, and most importantly, a small, innocent person. Children don't have to pay for their parents' mistakes.
