Some people find it very difficult to ask someone for help, even if it is vital for them. Someone thinks that his request imposes some obligations on others, someone is simply afraid to hear “no” in response. But the truth is that most people are willing to be friends with all kinds of support - emotional, physical, and even material - if they are politely asked for it. The smaller the problem, the more people are ready to help you deal with it.
Instructions
Step 1
Take it for granted that asking for help doesn't mean you're a failure. There are many problems that a person cannot cope with alone. Also, there are things that are easy for some, while others cope with them with difficulty. You are just as ready to help someone with something that seems to you to be a trifling matter. So don't feel ashamed, embarrassed, or disappointed in yourself.
Step 2
Determine exactly what you need help with? If you have a difficult financial situation, what do you need more - borrowed money or additional income? If you are not coping with some task at work, what do you really need - for someone to do the work for you or for help to figure out how to cope with it yourself?
Step 3
Imagine the possible consequences of the problem if you continue to deal with it yourself. If you do not fulfill the responsibilities assigned to you, you can lose your job. If you don't deal with your financial situation, you will have to give up some necessary things. Perhaps from medical treatment, education for children, or you may not be able to pay your mortgage on time. These are even bigger problems that you will have if you do not ask for help.
Step 4
Think about someone who can really help you without harming themselves. If you are a single woman and need to move your closet, it’s ridiculous to ask a friend for help, but a bodybuilder neighbor may be able to handle the task playfully. If you are in need of money, and your classmate has a cleaning company or a repair bureau, then perhaps he will offer you additional income for his own benefit.
Step 5
State your request clearly and practice in front of the mirror. Avoid the ingratiating tone. Be polite, humble, and positive. People are willing to help those who deserve help, but a plaintive tone will instantly turn you into a beggar.
Step 6
If you seek help from charities or ask a bank for a loan, prepare all the necessary paperwork in advance. Calculate how much you need, in what time frame you can return it. If you want donation, please provide a clear financial plan. If someone needs expensive treatment, bring all medical documents, offers from clinics, and estimated drug costs. State your request in writing.
Step 7
Be grateful and grateful for the help and support provided, even if you do not receive it in the amount you expected. If possible, do something good for the person who helps you. Invite a colleague who helped you with your report for a cup of coffee at a good bakery, or give him a DVD of his favorite TV show. Bring the woman who agreed to sit with your child a box of chocolate or a book from her favorite writer. Be considerate of people.
