In the case when a guy suddenly suddenly went to jail, or if it turns out that a young man you like is serving a sentence, it is important to decide for yourself whether such a companion is needed in life. And already on the basis of this, build further relationships or break off all contacts.
Instructions
Step 1
Think about it: are feelings for a guy strong enough to wait many years for him to be free? Perhaps over the years it will be possible to find a new guy, build a strong relationship with him, marry him and start a family. And to wait means to waste years and not be completely sure of a bright future.
Step 2
Think: most likely, the guy will be released from prison with a completely different character than he was before. Places of imprisonment do not leave their mark on a rare person. Many come back with a broken psyche, and after serving time, you will not even be able to communicate in the same language. We'll either have to come to terms with it, or part. Even from a purely psychological point of view, it is difficult for a person who has returned from behind barbed wire to get used to a new, free life. Of course, if a person before prison had strong moral principles and a strong character, then prison will not "break" him.
Step 3
Consider the prospects for your future life with this guy. That life when he gets out of prison. Most likely, old friends will turn their backs on him, but new ones will appear - those with whom he “spent time”. It is very difficult to find a good job with a criminal record. And from the inability to build a normal life, many former criminals either get drunk or start committing new crimes. Not all, of course. There are those who manage to get a higher education and make a good career, but there are only a few of them.
Step 4
If you decide to continue your relationship with this guy, be prepared for various difficulties. It will be very difficult to explain this decision to your parents - it will be a big shock for them. Defend your right to love a prisoner: build your life, get an education, become independent. When your beloved is released from prison, you will have to support him not only morally, but also financially. And in later life with a convicted person, be ready to independently solve all the financial problems of the family.
Step 5
Think also about one side of life with a convicted person. If your career goes uphill in the future, there will be no top management positions: the security service will check all the relatives of the candidate. The same can be said about the prospects for taking major leadership positions in government agencies. An unenviable fate awaits children as well: from negative attitudes on the part of peers at school to serious restrictions in public service.
