Life is full of miracles, and perhaps the best of them is new people, friends and like-minded people. And it doesn't matter where they live: in the next doorway or across the ocean. Correspondence allows you to explore another culture or talk about yourself.
It is necessary
- - Directory for letters and photos
- - Notepad or notebook to record contacts of pen pals. (Don't rely on technology, a virus can erase all information in a mailbox or computer file.)
Instructions
Step 1
Acquaintance in the networks.
Today you can find 99% of friends with the same interests. But at the same time, we must remember that motley people are walking on the net. And if it is impossible to verify that a person really exists, it is better to avoid such acquaintances, or not to let a friend get too close. In general networks, it is better to look for a pen-friend in the thematic community. But at the same time, first take a closer look at the candidate for friends: how she or he expresses his thoughts, how he expresses aggression. Better, of course, to turn your attention to people who are polite, literate and with a sense of humor. If a person is aggressive, emotional, uses too many punctuation marks (for example, 18 questions or 10 lines with dots), then problems may arise with him.
Step 2
Meetings, seminars, competitions.
You can find a penpal at seminars, during the Olympiad, which is attended by participants from different regions and even countries. You can meet friends at scientific conferences, creative competitions or projects that are supported by real people or organizations with a good reputation (for example, volunteer movements). This is the safest option in the sense that you can not doubt the reality of a person. It is unlikely that this friend will behave incorrectly, because he is risking the reputation of his community.
Step 3
Ad in the paper.
The most risky, perhaps, option. You can run into a pedophile, a swindler, and even a vigilant law enforcement officer who "combes" this environment in search of criminals and their potential victims. If you really want to write to a person from a newspaper ad (the photo is beautiful, and the ad text tears your soul to shreds), then it is better not to shine your data and not send the photo in the first letter. You can create a post office box. And first get to know a person like this.
Step 4
Be the initiator.
But before you place your ad "Looking for a pen pal" on the appropriate resource, perhaps it is worth asking yourself three security questions. What do I want from this communication? What can I tell my interlocutor? What security measures will I take before starting a conversation? (In other words, how to protect yourself from someone else's intrusive attention if the situation gets out of control?) Do not deceive yourself and say that you want warmth from communication and deep discussions on philosophical issues. Sometimes you want to, but more often than not people are looking for the other half. Others have many friends, friends, but no eyewitnesses who could be painlessly entrusted with the secrets of the heart.
