Friends are people you can always count on. They are needed not only in order to share joy with a person, but also to support in difficult times. It is unpleasant and painful to find out that a friend has failed, betrayed. What to do in this case?
Instructions
Step 1
Talk to mutual friends or parents about the reasons for the incident. Perhaps you find out that the person who let you down was jealous of you for a long time or, in general, friendship took place only on your part. Sometimes friends and parents know this better, but they do not always consider it possible to interfere with the relationship.
Step 2
Don't hide from your friend that you are frustrated with their behavior. Sincerity is something that should not be overlooked in friendship. If you pretend that nothing happened and silently digest the resentment, you are unlikely to be able to erase from your memory the betrayal of the person you were hoping for, and the relationship will not be the same. Sincere conversation will give you and your friend a chance to understand each other, and possibly forgive.
Step 3
After the friend explains the behavior from their perspective, give yourself time to think. Analyze the reasons that prompted your friend to do the wrong thing. If you can't forgive a friend, don't pretend. It is better to stop communicating with this person for a while. Tell your friend that you need a break from your relationship.
Step 4
If you can't decide whether your friend's misbehavior towards you was just a coincidence, or if he is prone to betrayal, arrange a check. Simulate a situation in which your friend will be faced with a choice: to act in relation to you as a true friend, or to betray you to please his interests. Try to do everything so that your friend is not aware of the check, otherwise the purity of the experiment will disappear.
Step 5
If you see that your friend did not let you down on purpose, and he himself sincerely regrets, do not conceal resentment against him - anything can happen in life, and you should not throw your friends around. At the same time, if a comrade defends his innocence, does not regret that he let you down, think - maybe this is not the person with whom you should be friends.
Step 6
In any case, do not blindly trust the one who let you down before. If circumstances force you to rely on this person again, play it safe with a fallback behavior.
