The word is the most powerful weapon. The wounds it inflicts sometimes does not heal for years. The strangest thing is that sometimes words do not offend on purpose. To work on yourself to be effective, you need to find out what words hurt people.
Instructions
Step 1
Most often, people communicate in the family and at work. If everything is clear with loved ones, then it is quite difficult to adapt to each stranger or just a stranger. But there are certain methods, having studied which, you can understand how not to offend a person with a word.
Step 2
First of all, do not try to expose someone, even if you know that the person is exaggerating, to put it mildly. This will not bring any tangible results - it will not work to change the formed personality, and even without her consent. So why inflame the relationship by questioning the words of another, if you can just keep silent. Of course, if the situation does not threaten you or someone else with trouble.
Step 3
It's pretty easy to figure out which words hurt people. Put yourself in the shoes of the other person. How would you react to harsh criticism, derogatory tone, or inappropriate laughter? Even if you disagree with someone, you should not express your opinion in such a way as to make the other person look like a fool. After all, if you find yourself in his place, you are unlikely to like this.
Step 4
Often you have to communicate with overly talkative personalities. Moreover, such people do not necessarily gossip or report the news. They can simply retell a well-known fact for a long time, annoying those around them. If it is impossible to exclude such a person from your circle, just listen silently to the next batch of platitudes. Cutting off, explaining or criticizing will only prolong an already tedious conversation.
Step 5
There are individuals who, like air, need to share their joy even with unfamiliar people. To many, this manner is incomprehensible and can cause an aggressive reaction or ridicule. Never laugh at people, no matter how insignificant their achievements are in your eyes. Better just congratulate and wish new heights in your career / personal relationships / parenting. A person will be satisfied with this and his inspired speech will be half as short.
Step 6
Sometimes the desire to share joy turns into boasting. Here it is more difficult to understand how not to offend a person with a word if he is frankly annoying. In such a situation, benevolent humor will save. If the person does not understand and continues to brag, you can try to pull the blanket over yourself. As soon as you start spreading about your own talents, the interlocutor will quickly lose interest in you and find a new victim.
Step 7
Never try to "cut the truth-uterus" in the eyes, if someone's life does not depend on it. For what purpose do you want to inform the employee that she was smashed like a pig, and the sister of the brother / brother of the wife that she / he is a person with mental disabilities? Do you want to denigrate the other and look more advantageous against his background? This approach will inevitably lead to conflicts and turn against you.
