There are times in life when someone makes an unacceptable request or proposal. The difficulty is that it is not always convenient to answer with a sharp refusal. After all, even if you do not agree with the interlocutor, you do not want to inadvertently offend a good person. What if you still need to answer?
Instructions
Step 1
Consider the simplest and perhaps most correct option first: answer honestly the way you think. If you are sure that a person's proposal does not suit you, your evasions and tricks will only prolong the matter and may give him unnecessary illusions and some unrealizable dreams or expectations. And sooner or later the truth will still come out, and then your interlocutor will definitely be offended and wonder why you did not explain everything at once and directly.
Step 2
Even if you tell a truth that is not entirely pleasant for a person, he will understand and will not be offended if you speak softly and calmly, politely and with respect. Speak sincerely and with an open mind. Do not forget to thank you for the honor and attention given to you. Find some words that don't sound like a flat-out refusal. Perhaps after a while you will reconsider your decision. Tell me what else you think about this proposal.
Step 3
When refusing, try to find the most compelling arguments. If you are very convincing, then emotions will fade into the background, giving way to reason and rationality. What is the reason why you refuse. It may not be entirely true, but easy and understandable.
Step 4
Try to answer using hints if for some reason you can't directly refuse. A smart person will analyze the information, understand everything and will not be offended.
Step 5
Refuse the interlocutor by issuing your refusal as a compliment. Praise him for any good qualities or for the proposal itself. For example, "you are such a reasonable and sensitive person that you understand better than anyone …", "you have a wonderful idea, but …", "I know that you can be relied upon, therefore …" and so on. But keep in mind that your compliments must be sincere, otherwise your partner will immediately feel fake. Believe yourself in what you say.
Step 6
Try to refuse an offer or request, referring to external circumstances beyond your control, as well as employment, illness, expectation of some important event, etc. In any case, you will be able to postpone the decision of this issue for a rather long period.
Step 7
Move away from an unpleasant conversation by changing the subject. Switch the interlocutor's attention to something else, no less important and interesting to him. However, keep in mind that the transition to another topic should not be very abrupt or noticeable. There should be no hesitation or long pause.
Step 8
Another option for refusal is to turn the conversation into a joke. This is not about ridiculing or insulting the interlocutor, but simply using a sense of humor. Your joke must be appropriate and kind, and then you will achieve the desired effect.
