How to competently part with a man if he is a bastard? Or maybe it was you who went to someone else? What if the relationship has outlived its usefulness, because most meetings end in parting. What if a man demands to return gifts? Remember how many men you had, not those with whom you had intimate intimacy, but those with whom you broke up. Who you went on a date with at least once, and then he disappeared, or you didn't build a relationship. With whom they knew, maybe a week, as well as men with whom they had deep relationships, husbands as well. We need to remember how many there were, and you will see how important this problem is.
"Mutual courtesy"
In most cases, when parting, we spit in each other's souls. In the process of communicating with each other, we develop a certain information field. Therefore, so that a kind of negative energy tail does not drag behind us. the first thing you need to learn is to say nice things, even if a man, after breaking up a relationship, demands to return the gift back, or did a meanness, rudely called, hit. It is quite natural that such behavior of a man causes counter aggression - to do so is not like a man. The girl wants to say and do nasty things to the man in return. And the man behaved vilely, because he, in turn, before that, was offended by another. I came on a date, flirted, then did not pick up the phone, and so another, third. And on the fourth, he broke.
Girls also have similar situations - a young man on a date said nice compliments, paid for dinner, saw him off, promised a new meeting and…. Disappeared. She calls him, he answered: "busy, I'll call you back" and … again silence. An unpleasant residue remains in the soul. And other men feel it, keep it at a distance and are not in a hurry to marry, they only use it.
Break the vicious circle
This chain reaction can be ended, no matter who started it first. To break this vicious circle, you need to call all those men who you broke up with, whom you left behind and …. To thank for the great life lesson in order to leave a warm, kind trace in the soul of your ex.
Sometimes, after a break in a relationship, deep wounds remain in the soul. The energy that boils inside at the end of a relationship - pain, despair, resentment - can be transformed into love through gratitude. Waiting for a miraculous balm for a broken woman's heart from men is a waste of time. Men are busy with more important things - work, crisis, business. Give them love, support. One of the components of love is charity, giving and forgiveness, this is also a kind of acceptance. If you have not forgiven the past man, then it is no longer possible to love the present.
Especially on the eve of the holidays, there is a reason to call a man to congratulate him and say warm words. And you will hear pleasant words in return if you are sincere. The more you are filled with gratitude, the more luck you will have in the new year.
Love can be learned to create. For those who give the emergence of feelings to chance and fate in life, it turns out, as in the proverb - from love to hate, one step. A woman with a pure light inside her heart attracts men like moths. Call everyone, let them be 40 or 100, or maybe three. Before calling, create a good mood for yourself: dance, watch a comedy, eat a cake.
Call a friend
What can you tell him? Start with gratitude, because that’s part of love. At first, you force yourself to feel love for the person with whom the relationship is over.
The words that you can say may sound something like this: “A man appeared for the first time in my life (here you are not really lying, because you met this person for the first time) who influenced me in such a way that I remembered this meeting for life. Never before has such a pleasant feeling of kindness, warmth, and pleasure been born in me, as at the moment when you appeared in my life. Even today, when I made the decision to part with you, I experience this blessed feeling of kindness, love and friendship."
Because friendship is actually unconditional love. The love of reason is respect.
“And besides, I respect you, because you are a man, as a person is very strong. You made me different, before this meeting I was (even if you met once) not so open, trusting, purposeful, confident and strong (improvise). No one has ever complimented me on such and such a topic in my life. I believed in myself, maybe more than I have. I first visited that restaurant (or other place). Be sure to remember real places and sensations. Our kiss in the moonlight is that romantic moment that will never be repeated in my life. I remembered him forever and I am sure that I will dream of him in many, many years. I would like my future daughter to have such a man who can present such an unforgettable meeting. So that my future son, in his actions or physical characteristics, would be like you."
Find something good in a man. For example, "so that my son has hands or eyes like you." Imagine how a man would be pleased to hear this from you. So that my son is eloquent like you, free to communicate. For a man, this is the highest gratitude. You will save your ex's life, he will no longer harm other girls, but on the contrary will do nice things for them. And you will be rewarded.
“I want our moments with you to be remembered only with a kind word, despite the fact that we are parting. This goodbye will be with a smile, because this is our life and that part, albeit small, was with you. I thought only about you, I even dreamed about you, I remembered you, closing my eyes, I saw you, I heard only your voice. Do you remember your look, then, in a cafe, it was unforgettable, you lowered your eyes down, and I realized - you want me! And even though you and I had nothing (if there was nothing) for me it was the highest degree of gratitude. I felt like a woman! Maybe it wasn't, but let me dream about it! It doesn't matter that we are parting now, there are men who can be met and not noticed as a passerby passed by. But you are a man who not only leaves a mark on the soul, but changes life completely, changes the direction of development, changes thoughts, changes the fate of a woman. And you are the same man. You are the man who can be a gift for any woman. Maybe we're not made for each other, maybe I'm making a mistake, it doesn't matter. The point is that we will leave behind. Because many people live in order to exist, and you live in order to create."
Let this speech be even longer, and even more heartfelt. Then you yourself will be filled with gratitude and appreciation, and if you are filled, you are ready to accept true love. Create a foundation for future love - start the new year in a new life, in a new state. Not just from scratch, but from the pluses in the soul.
