Getting to know the children of friends or relatives is not always an easy process. Children reason somewhat differently than adults, so you need to prepare well for this meeting in order to quickly find a common language with the child in the future.
Instructions
Step 1
In advance, ask the child's parents how old he is, what he likes to do in his free time, and also how he reacts to meeting strangers. So you can better prepare for your first meeting, think about how you should behave in this moment, and how you will start a conversation with your child.
Step 2
Try to combine your acquaintance with some kind of entertainment that your child can take part in. For example, you can meet at a zoo, a circus, go to the cinema, or visit a cafe. In this case, the child will be constantly in a good mood, and you will be able to feel more freely during the conversation. Also, you can easily find a topic for conversation, for example, discuss cartoon characters, choose a delicious treat together, etc.
Step 3
Be sure to give your child a small gift. It can be a toy or sweetness. If you know his hobbies for sure, you can donate, for example, a new chess set, an interesting book, etc. If you are in a cafe together, do not hesitate to ask your child about what he likes from food and what he would like to order.
Step 4
Ask about how things are going with your new acquaintance, what interesting things happened to him lately. The child's life is most often very active, and he may well tell you funny stories from school life, communication with peers, etc. Don't forget to compliment him - the kids love it.
Step 5
Tell your child something interesting about you. For example, describe your car, the countries you've visited, your profession. Have the child ask you about what interests him the most. You can even bring along some souvenirs, such as shells, a collection of pebbles, talismans and other small items. Present one of these to your new interlocutor.
Step 6
Do not stand aside and try to participate in all of the child's activities when you meet him. If he sat down to play cars, join the game. Ride the carousel together, shoot at the shooting range, etc. Remember that it is important for your child to feel that you are "on the same wavelength" with him. In this case, he will cease to experience embarrassment and slight fear, and you will be able to get to know him better and understand how best to build communication. And remember that for the first time, you should not take the child away from his parents or peers for too long, otherwise, over time, he will still get bored and may start to worry.
