It is believed that over time, sex with the same partner becomes boring and boring. But still, intimacy in such a relationship allows partners to open up and gives sensations more important than novelty.
Scientists are sure that even after years of intimacy, people can discover completely new facets in each other, including sexually. So how do you have the virtues of having sex in a long-term relationship?
1. Partners know each other
Sex on one side or during short-term affairs can be compared to a performance: we try to show the best that we are capable of, but we never achieve true intimacy. In addition, the excitement and fear of showing your flaws makes it difficult to relax and just have fun.
In a long-term relationship, this no longer happens. Everything that we so diligently hid will sooner or later appear. Stax and stress go away, and once that happens, it's time for new discoveries.
2. Partners can experiment
Trust in sex is especially important. Only by trusting each other, partners can feel free to talk about their needs and desires. Long-term relationships just give such a level of trust, in which bashfulness goes to the side of the plan and people can calmly and openly discuss their wishes and agree on boundaries.
3. Partners may not take sex too seriously
At the beginning of the relationship, each intimacy was something special, exciting. But over time, when partners have had sex very, very many times, they may no longer bother so much over the romantic atmosphere and inner mood. They can have sex whenever they want, and do everything "quickly" without turning sex into a farce.
4. Partners sometimes have to hide
When, for example, you have been married for many years and you already have children, you will no longer be so free in choosing a place and time for sex, you will have to try "not to get caught" every time. But when you do have the opportunity to have sex, you will feel like teenagers who need to hide from their parents, and this is very exciting.
5. The changes in appearance are not so striking
Of course, with age, our body loses its former attractiveness and we no longer look as slender at 45 as we were at 20. But the beauty of sex in long-term relationships lies precisely in the fact that these changes are not so noticeable, because we see our partner everyday. In addition, this feature of our memory operates here: we see the image of a person proceeding from our feelings for him, and not from objective information. That is why husbands who have been married to their wives for 20-30 years often argue that she has not changed at all. They do not lie, but simply see her as the same girl they once fell in love with.
6. Partners feel true closeness
We've all heard that sex without love is "not right." And there is scientific evidence for this. Of course, after dizzying sex with a stranger, you will be cool and healthy, but exactly until you return to an empty apartment. Therefore, over time, people no longer want to just be content with sex, but are looking for someone with whom they could just chat, laugh, watch a movie on the weekend and generally have a great time.
Against the background of strong emotional attachment, when sensory experiences become inseparable from physical sensations, sex becomes much better. And these are the experiences you can experience in a long-term relationship.
7. Partners go through all the problems together
There are many rumored examples of couples going through cancer together. For example, if a woman has breast cancer, such a couple cannot have sex for some time, but they support each other. Yes, before some parts of the body functioned differently, before touching them brought pleasure, but over time it may happen that everything will change. The benefit of a long-term relationship is that it allows partners to cope with it together and continue to have a fulfilling sex life because they both want it. It is easier for them to adapt to each other's new forms, they trust each other. Be prepared that your body will not stay young forever. Better to be with a partner who will help you emerge victorious from all trials than to waste your life and energy searching for newness.
