If you want your marriage to be strong and lasting, be sure to find out the most common reasons why women lose their husbands. Take responsibility for your happiness in your own hands and do not repeat the mistakes of others.
Praise, appreciate, love
Often women try not to praise their husbands. They point out the shortcomings with great pleasure, and praise and thank - for nothing. Thanks to such an attitude, a woman seems to show that I am clever, but your hands are not from that place, and you are a bad father, and you do not earn much. Probably, the wives are afraid that the husband will become proud. He will also believe in himself.
And the man believes. Only not in himself, but in the fact that he is wrong, inferior. And his wife, poor thing, tolerates him. Since he does not know how to solve problems, (remember, yes, that the hands are from the wrong place and further down the list) the solution is the simplest: alcohol, computer games or a mistress who believes in him. When he drinks, the problems become less acute. When he plays, he succeeds, he feels competent. Well, there is nothing to say about the mistress. A man wants to be understood, to be believed, to be loved.
A man can endure for a long time while his wife nags and belittles him, but over the years comes the understanding that he was not born for all this, that it is possible to live differently. And then he leaves. At first, perhaps, it will be held by debt, children, jointly acquired property. And then he will simply leave and leave everything, just to no longer endure reproaches. And the unfortunate woman will say that he is so and so, but how dare. I gave myself all to him.
And often, after all, it does not even occur to such women that he left not because he was such and such, but because you brought him. Why behave like that? Who said that praise would make a husband proud? Who said you shouldn't show your love for him? Who said that he only needs to be sawed and scolded?
This is usually done to prevent the man from escaping. Let him think that he is worthless, no one needs
I am already married
When a man got married, his lady of the heart possessed certain qualities. And if after the wedding she stopped removing unwanted hair, although she had previously done it regularly, to monitor her weight, words and appearance, it is clear that very few people will like it. If before you didn’t nag the groom and didn’t swear with a choice obscenity, but now you have started to do it, it is likely that the man will not be delighted.
And what if from work you meet a tired husband at the door with a garbage bag and a face as if you ate a lemon? Come on, throw away the trash quickly! He's unlikely to like it.
Tips for married ladies:
Forget greasy bathrobes and torn slippers. This is unaesthetic. A man, although he himself may be a little more beautiful than a monkey, appreciates beauty. And the wife is simply obliged to give him this beauty. Be a real woman. Beautiful, well-groomed and in decent home clothes.
Don't forget beautiful underwear. Never keep torn or lost its aesthetic appearance at home, and even more so, do not wear.
Serve beautifully served food. Remember that only animals are fed the mash. Cook with love, putting the energy of love into cooking.
Constantly learn and improve. Don't become a boring housewife with whom it is impossible to talk, because all interests come down to watching TV series and talk shows.
Meet your husband with a smile and be sure to say how you miss him. Even if you are very tired.
First, drink, feed, then ask for help.
Try to keep your home tidy. But don't nag everyone. Just define a place for each thing.
How not to lose your husband after giving birth
Not all men realize that you have less energy after sleepless nights with your baby. They continue to demand increased attention to themselves.
After all, he is a man, he is the main one and has always been the center of your family. Some men cannot stand crying at all and are irritated. Unfortunately, not everyone is born with a paternal instinct.
The wife, in turn, gets very tired, she wants her husband to help. The child is, after all, a joint one. And everyday problems have increased. The spouse becomes irritable. And the man, instead of helping, begins to be offended and irritated in response. And then he completely goes into free swimming, leaving you alone with your problems. Unfortunately, these scenarios are now becoming very common.
To prevent this from happening, try to optimize labor costs. Where possible, ask for help from your husband, mother, friends. Never think that he has to understand something himself. Ask. Only no complaints. Tell them that you are very tired and ask them to help wash the dishes. You are welcome. And don't forget to thank for your help. After all, gratitude gives a man wings.
Never forget that men are different from women, which is why you need to build trust and talk. Talk and listen to your partner. Then it will be possible to solve any problem without scandals.
