The husband has changed. It's always a huge shock (even if you suspected it might happen), and many marriages fall apart afterwards. Not even because the unfaithful spouse preferred a rival, but simply because the shaken relationship in the couple could not be restored. But if you decide to forgive the betrayal of your husband and save your family, then the decision must be followed. How to do this if everything inside is seething with resentment?
Instructions
Step 1
The first step is to deal with your emotions. If you constantly pour out anger and resentment against your husband, remembering his adventures - this in itself can poison family life. But keeping negative emotions in yourself is also not an option. So write a letter to your husband. Take a piece of paper and describe in detail how you feel, how offended you are, how much pain he has caused you. And feel free to express yourself. Once finished, tear and discard. Or burn it. This will allow you to release and release destructive emotions.
Step 2
Think about how many bonds you have. Home, children, the usual Sunday family breakfasts … A lot of important things and a million little things - how difficult it would be for you without each other! Remember all the good things that you had. Flip through the family photo album - and, looking at the loving couple that you once were, remember that this is not "an irrevocably gone past." This is your present - after all, this person is next to you, you had so many wonderful minutes - and how many more there will be!
Step 3
Try to seriously (but calmly) talk with your husband about his infidelity - as a thing that “was and passed”. Do not focus on your opponent and their relationship, but try to find out the reasons for what happened - and, perhaps, change your behavior in some way.
Step 4
Arrange a little "romantic trip" for you and your husband - it doesn't have to be a vacation trip, a one-day excursion, a joint trip to the cinema or the theater, lunch at a restaurant "for no reason", skiing … The main thing is to be together in a pleasant and an atypical situation for both of you. It will help you see each other in new ways and refresh the familiar feelings you have for each other. Love needs fresh sensations - and it is better to look for them with each other, not on the side.
