"There is no love without jealousy and there is no jealousy without love," Violetta Villas once sang. You can argue with a famous singer…. After all, jealousy can easily destroy love. She is able to destroy any attachment at the root. Where do the legs of this feeling come from? And how can it turn out for the relationship?
A certain amount of jealousy occurs in any relationship. When a person loves someone, he does not want to share the object of his adoration with anyone. And that's okay. All people are a bit possessive at heart. When a potential competitor or rival appears on the horizon, both partners may be afraid of losing their soul mate. This is where the fears arise that lead to such a destructive feeling. Nevertheless, when the first seeds of mistrust creep into your soul, you should carefully control yourself so as not to let them dominate you. If you give in to them, jealousy becomes dangerous. And over time, it will completely develop into pathology. What is it about morbid jealousy?
Jealousy of a man
This often happens because a man lacks self-confidence. He is not good enough in his own eyes, does not value himself and does not respect. Therefore, she cannot get rid of the thought that she will forever lose the heart of the chosen one, once she meets someone better and more worthy. Hence, discomfort and aggression arise, looking for a way out and discharge. Very often there are outbursts of jealousy and anger, which are accompanied by insults to the passion, quarrels and fights. Often on this basis, many marriages break up.
Sometimes a partner's jealousy is so pathological that it becomes a disease called "Othello's syndrome." The patient suspects the partner of many betrayals, constantly accuses him of something, checks the telephone connections and controls the exit from the house. In extreme cases, he hires detectives, who he pays to track down his beloved. All calls for rationality in this case are reduced to naught. After all, a sick person cannot be explained that he is wrong. Usually people who abuse alcohol suffer from "Othello's syndrome", so paranoid jealousy often goes hand in hand with alcoholism.
Painful jealousy of a woman
It manifests itself in constant fear. The girl fears that she may lose a partner in his absence - at work, in a store, park, cinema … The obsessive thought that a partner will meet someone more attractive is accompanied by a complete lack of trust in the chosen one. A woman lives "on pins and needles": she herself suffers and torments her beloved with her eternal suspicion. A relationship that was once pleasant for both turns into a real nightmare …
How to get rid of painful jealousy?
1. Never and under any pretext do not arrange public quarrels! Better try to be attractive to your partner, surprise him, make a small gift for him.
2. If you feel that your partner is spending less time with you than before, try to find a reason for the change in his behavior. Perhaps he is overwhelmed with daily activities and work. It doesn't have to be a sign of cheating.
3. Enjoy the fact that someone else likes your companion. After all, this means that he is very attractive. And you are lucky that out of a thousand possible options, he chose you.
4. Remember that painful jealousy stems from low and erratic self-esteem. Trust yourself and your chosen one, listen to your heart. And then there will be room only for love.
