Contrary to the general opinion, perfectionists are not born, they grow up. This phenomenon has its roots in a person's childhood, specifically in those moments when parents show and indicate to a child how and what should be done, based on their experience and knowledge. Due to the lack of independent choice, the child experiences discomfort, which affects his temperament and future character.
A common example of perfectionism is wealthy children - children from wealthy families. The overwhelming majority of such children are financially provided, while spiritual and moral support fades into the background. In such families, parents play a huge role in the lives of children, predetermining every step and every movement of the child.
A standard phenomenon is that a child must have grades of at least "excellent", graduation from school must be accompanied by the indispensable receipt of a gold medal, and a university - a red diploma. An integral part of learning is the development of several foreign languages and leadership positions wherever possible.
The opposite is true for families where parents spend most of their time at work, away from their children. They do this so that the children are educated, well-fed and neatly dressed. To achieve this, it is necessary to have money that they earn day and night. Children in such families are completely devoid of care and attention, because tired parents often just want to relax, and they do not care about bored children.
The result of such situations is depression, various kinds of addiction, all kinds of stress. Research shows, among other things, that perfectionism is more inherent in the oldest child in the family.
