In any couple, unfortunately, quarrels arise. They can spoil the relationship between a man and a woman for a while, or even cause separation. It is very difficult to completely avoid the occurrence of conflicts with a loved one, but it is quite possible to reduce their number and prevent serious consequences.
Instructions
Step 1
Think about what causes the most fights in your couple. The most common reasons are as follows.
- Dispute. Sometimes during an ordinary conversation, people have disagreements, as a result of which an ordinary conversation develops first into an argument, and then into a quarrel with mutual insults and accusations.
- Discrepancy between personal values and interests. All people are different, and therefore what is important to one person may be a trifle for another. If this situation occurs in a couple, it can cause conflict.
- Different tempers. It happens that one in a couple is slow, thoughtful, accustomed to weighing everything before making a decision, which is very annoying for his partner, who is emotional, quick-tempered and temperamental, as a result of which quarrels arise.
- Domestic issues. If people live together, sooner or later they have disagreements about whose turn it is to wash the dishes, who should clean the house, etc. This is the most common cause of family quarrels and conflicts.
- Boredom can also be a reason for swearing. In an established, long-term relationship, when life is already established and every day is similar to the previous one, one of the partners may lack emotions, which is why he provokes a conflict, blaming his soul mate for the absence of feelings.
Look, are these moments serious enough to quarrel with your loved one? But, oddly enough, in some couples, the conflict goes so far that people can even part.
Step 2
If you value your relationship and want to keep it, learn to control your emotions, actions, and words. You should not start a showdown immediately after you do not like something. Perhaps, after a while, it turns out that you simply misunderstood something, and the conflict can be avoided. In addition, you will have time to cool down, so you can calmly discuss the situation, without insults or accusations.
Step 3
Know how to stop in time. If you feel that your argument is going too far and the atmosphere starts to heat up, stop talking. You shouldn't do it abruptly or announce that you no longer want to discuss anything. Just invite everyone to remain unconvinced.
Step 4
Perceive your loved one for who he is, with all his advantages and disadvantages, interests, hobbies and character traits, if you want to be with him. Do not try to remake it, do not overuse advice on what to do and how to behave, because few people will like moralizing.
Step 5
Do not take everyday problems too seriously. If your loved one didn't wash the dishes when you asked him, or didn't put something back in place, don't swear. Try again to gently hint to him, and if he doesn't understand again, remind him that he promised to help you.
