There are many known cases when difficult relationships were established between children. Sibling rivalry is common. Somewhere children compete with a smile, but somewhere this is the cause of unhealthy relationships. How can you prevent quarrels between children?
Very often, parents themselves are the cause of feelings such as jealousy. For example, a child was surrounded by attention from all sides, and then another child appears. If you expect replenishment, be sure to explain to your child that globally nothing will change, and that the parents will still love him.
Do not deprive the elder of the attention and distribute the time evenly between the two children. Do not admire your second child in front of the first and advise relatives to do the same.
It would be best to involve your first child in all the events that take place in the family. If you go to the store, be sure to take all the children with you, and if you are thinking of making a purchase, let the child choose a toy, both for himself and for the baby.
It will also not be superfluous to give the child small assignments related to the baby. For example, asking him to bring a diaper or a bottle will make the child feel important and responsible. But don't turn your child into a nanny.
Don't compare children! Praise your child and ask them to share their knowledge. This will teach your children to support each other. Give the children assignments they can do together, such as folding toys, thinking up a gift, or going to the store. Also, team games are great.
What if the children swear, fight, yell, or sneer at each other? React to any manifestations of conflict, because it affects their self-esteem and their ability to deal with people. Remember that children are not alike in character, and your task is to teach them to respect each other. If the older child plays alone, then it is worth explaining to the younger that he loves to play this way.
There is no need to create competitions between children, because in the absence of competition, their relationship will be friendly.
How can you help children? Listen to them. If the child talks about the abuser, his anger will go away by itself. Understand the vision of the situation and be as friendly as possible; agree with the abuser's parents. Let the children say absolutely everything they think about each other and do not interrupt them. After that, it is worth explaining to them why they are wrong.
Do not promise your child that the abuser will deal with you or that your abuser is stupid, because such statements only cause aggression.
