In the process of raising a child, parents often do not know the specific ways in which a child can be punished for this or that oversight in such a way as not to offend or disrupt his psychological state. Most educators argue that physical punishment cannot lead to the intended results, because then the child may have fear of parents. Remember that the child should not be afraid of you, but respect you, and this respect should not appear from fear.
You should not punish a child with reading, writing or hunger for bad behavior, because such punishments are completely contrary to his natural needs. The best way is to understand his behavior and clearly define guilt. If the child is not guilty, and you punished him, then prepare for the fact that you will have an embittered child who will grow up to be a negative teenager. Unfair punishment will always lead to a complete loss of respect and trust, which will be replaced by fear and anger.
In addition, it is worthwhile to deliberately determine the rules and norms of behavior in the family and, on the basis of this, impose penalties in case of non-observance. The punishments must necessarily be different depending on the severity of the disobedience. If there are several children in the family, then remember that the punishments for them should be completely the same. If both naughty, and received only one, then he will harbor a resentment of injustice against you.
It is also necessary to remember that in the process of raising a child, you must not insult, use abuse or indicate his inferiority. And, of course, you cannot compare him with other children, and if you threatened him with punishment, then it must necessarily be so that the child feels the significance of parental words.
The most common types of punishment on the part of pedagogy are conversations, ignorance, restriction of actions. What does ignore mean? The attention of his parents is especially important for all children. Children are known to indulge in being noticed. Ignoring means that you need to warn the child that if he does not behave better, they will not play and communicate with him. It is necessary to explain this to the child in a quiet, calm voice. If you ignore the actions of the child, he will have the opportunity to reflect on his actions.
Conversations. They are of particular importance in the upbringing of a child. Conversations should also be conducted in a calm atmosphere, in order to find out the reasons for his behavior. Talk to him in a language he understands and remember that scandals and screams make the child withdrawn.
You should also remember about this type of punishment as restriction of movement, because such a punishment affects the child very strongly. At a young age, active movement for a child is a key component, and that is why restriction is very useful.
It should be noted that some of the actions of children themselves lead to punishment. For example, a child did not want to put on gloves and froze his hands. In such cases, it is necessary to explain to the child the reasons and consequences of his disobedience.
Well, and perhaps most importantly, punish the child only for those offenses that happened just now, and not an hour, two or a day ago. The child should feel that you love him and not punish him "for future use."
