The first signs of disobedience and stubbornness begin to appear in children around the age of two. Insisting on his own, disobeying, resolutely answering “no” to almost all the proposals of adults, the child literally harasses the parents. How to behave with a naughty kid?
Until one and a half to two years, your baby just had to scream to be approached, fed, changed. The crumb was entertained and fulfilled all his desires, which became more and more. And now the parents do not allow to get into the trash can, against their will they lead home from a walk. The natural reaction of a toddler trying to become independent is protest. The age has come when the baby needs to learn to understand that others, like him, have desires and feelings, that there are rules that must be followed. It takes a little time to master this very important task. Parents should teach the little man to regulate his feelings, help him master the skills of communicating with people. Development of a child's independence does not mean a complete rejection of any restrictions. A child needs bans as much as freedom of choice. It is only when parents are inconsistent or too restrictive that family life becomes a constant battlefield in which the child is often the winner. Try to calm down and understand that your hitherto docile baby is not behaving this way because he wants to ruin your life. He is just trying to master new strategies of behavior, and it is not easy for the baby either. Try not to overreact to your baby's bad behavior so that it doesn't repeat itself more often. In this way, the child gets your attention. Let him know that his tantrums do not scare you, that by sharing his feelings, you still will not change your point of view. Give your baby maximum attention when he is flexible and behaves well. If he does what you asked him to do, be sure to praise him. There is no need to praise an adult for brushing his teeth, but this is still very important for a 2-year-old. After all, it is very important for him to learn to understand what and why is happening to him when he protests or gets angry. Instead of saying "Don't you dare get angry," it is better to tell the baby: "I know that you feel bad, you are upset, but I am also very upset with your behavior." A child who stubbornly insists on his own, often simply cannot understand what they want from him. He hears only the indignation of his parents and responds in kind. In such situations, try to speak in a calm voice and articulate your requirements as clearly as possible. To avoid unnecessary battles, give your child a choice often. For example, if your toddler doesn't want to change before bed, ask him what kind of pajamas he wants to sleep in. During lunch, let him choose a spoon and a plate for food. Give your child the opportunity to make an independent decision, then, perhaps, in another situation he will be more agreeable. Remember that the more patiently, consistently and consistently all family members insist on the child's acceptance of the mandatory, followed by all rules, the easier your child will be able to master them. …
