Raising a child is not easy. But sometimes we ourselves are the cause of the child's whims. We often look at the behavior of the baby from the height of our age, experience, physiological development, after all. Here are 10 of the most common mistakes parents make without even thinking about their significance. Answer these questions for yourself before you go all over the place by scolding your child.
Instructions
Step 1
Are our requirements appropriate for the child's age? A small child has no such thing as patience. Their will only develops from the age of 9-10. Therefore, it makes no sense to demand Spartan restraint from a preschooler, your requests are most often initially doomed to failure.
Step 2
Do we understand the reasons for a particular child's behavior? Do we take into account his needs and interests? Looking at the problem from the perspective of a child will necessarily lead, if not to the desired result, then at least to a compromise between the parties.
Step 3
Do we always look at the physical condition of the child? He may be hungry, tired, or worried about something. No matter how ridiculous childhood fears may seem to us, they need to be taken seriously, and try to resolve them at the very beginning.
Step 4
Aren't we suppressing the natural mechanisms of children's development with our demands? Try to look at your child's desire to be everywhere and everywhere at the same time, not as your punishment, but as a happy opportunity for your child to explore this world.
Step 5
Doesn't it sometimes seem to us that the child is doing everything on purpose to spite us? Far from it. It's just that human memory, in addition to various useful and not very information, also stores old grievances. They often come up in our relationship with the child. Forget them, you are already an adult, and it is not always helpful to give back to the abuser, especially when it comes to your own child.
Step 6
Do we contradict the physiological characteristics of the child? If you yourself do not want to sleep or eat, how can you make you do it with words alone?
Step 7
Are we shifting our mistakes onto the child? Maybe your laziness, forgetfulness or inattention is to blame? Answer yourself honestly to this question.
Step 8
Do we know how to concede, negotiate with people, compromise? What can we ourselves teach the child in the field of human relations? What do we do to make the child listen to us?
Step 9
Are we overestimating the child's capabilities in his perceptions of danger? Is it possible at his age to predict the situation and see all the possible consequences?
Step 10
Do we take into account the personality of the child? Do we not forget about his features, interests and desires?
