Girls who are looking for a life partner have a certain stereotype - what qualities they should have. When a candidate for this role appears on the horizon, the question arises: is he suitable or not.
Instructions
Step 1
Some psychologists recommend choosing by similarity, that is, the person who is most similar to you. Others, on the contrary, recommend choosing the opposite in nature - such people are attracted to each other. However, the third approach is most practical: choose a partner who has the same values as you. Some knowledge will help you in making a decision: all people are divided into 4 "psychological families". And ideally, you want a partner who belongs to the same family as you.
Step 2
Family "Alpha"
They are gourmets of life, connoisseurs of psychological comfort and positive emotions. They love the flight of imagination, freedom of thought, they want to reach the horizon of science. In this family, scattered scientists and cheerful Epicureans find each other. Values: happiness, comfort, opportunity, clarity.
Step 3
The Beta family
These are people who are refined and appreciate sophistication. Here you will find strong-willed leaders, lovers of order, who find emotional, bright, artistic personalities in this particular group. Representatives of this family consider their life to be eventful if it is full of bright events and strong-willed achievements. Here hierarchy and power are at a premium. Values: clarity, happiness, events, will.
Step 4
Family "Gamma"
Forecasters and pragmatists, as well as charismatic leaders and devotees of morality. These people are very critical of their loved ones and their successes. There are many practical workaholics among them. For the group, relationships and influence are very important, which is based not on hierarchy, but on the personal attractiveness of the individual. Values: will, relationships, events, utility.
Step 5
Delta family
The search for convenience and practical value, materialism is combined with spirituality as a person's search for answers to eternal questions. This group does not like rules, but asserts the intrinsic value of each person. Many representatives of this family have "golden hands". They love to look for hidden talents here, hard work and accuracy at a special price. Values: relationships, opportunities, usefulness, comfort.
Step 6
Write down all 8 values in a column and put a score for each preference next to each one. First, evaluate what is more dear to you: comfort or fullness of life with events, opportunities or will, benefit or happiness, relationships or logical clarity?
Step 7
Then think about what you think is more important: will or comfort, happiness as a feeling or relationship, clarity or benefit, events or opportunities? This choice is harder to make. But as a result, you will get an idea of the preferred values, the most important for you will be indicated by two strokes. Find these four values (or at least three) in descriptions of psychological families.
Step 8
Ask your guy to take the same test. It is best if you belong to the same family with him; tolerant if to neighbors. But if you belong to Alpha and he to Gamma, or if one of you is from Beta and the other is from Delta, consider the relationship as short-term. Although, even in this case, you can build a full-fledged strong family, but it will be more difficult.
