Often, in dreams of a second child, a woman imagines a touching picture where a brother protects her sister or an older sister takes care of a baby. However, at first everything happens quite differently …
Instructions
Step 1
The birth of a second baby is an inevitable stress for an older child at any age. There is jealousy, hostility to the baby, the desire to grab your attention. Often, an older child becomes unbearable: he forgets the skills that he has already learned, for example, to go to the toilet on his own, eat carefully at the table, demands to be picked up and fed from a bottle. A newborn baby needs you almost around the clock, while an older one gets confused and cries underfoot. How to cope with two children and go crazy, Western psychologists and experienced mothers suggest.
Step 2
Start preparing your older child for the baby's arrival early. Warn immediately that the child will be born small and helpless, and will not be able to immediately take part in the games. Make time for your eldest when you get back from the hospital. Tell us that he is now an older, adult and the baby is very proud of him. Present your child with a “gift from a toddler” that you purchase in advance.
Step 3
Do not impose on an older child love for a baby. Perhaps he still seems to him alien, ugly and uninteresting. Give the elder time to take a closer look, get used to the newborn.
Step 4
Do not force an older child to do something for the baby. At the same time, encourage initiative and show how it can be useful. Ask to open a pack of diapers, bring a towel, and measure the temperature of the water. Praise for his independence, constantly repeat how glad you are that he is an adult and can do everything, while the baby is still so unintelligent.
Step 5
Think of walks with the children during the daytime of the baby. While he sleeps in the stroller, do not drag the children to the shops, but take time for the older child. Play with him, collect a herbarium of leaves, build a tower of sand. Satisfied with your attention, the elder will thank you with calm play in his room when the baby wakes up.
Step 6
When the baby sleeps at home during the day, do not shout at the older child, forcing him to observe complete silence. A small level of noise will not harm the baby, but the ringing silence, on the contrary, will make his sleep overly sensitive over time. If the apartment has a loggia, buy a baby monitor and put your baby to sleep on the loggia in a stroller. At this time, the games and running around of the elder will not bother him, and you will hear the crying of the baby in time.
Step 7
If the difference between children is small and the elder himself is not yet independent enough, he may ask for his arms, climb to his chest, take away the nipple and bottle. Experienced weather mothers share their advice not to interfere with the elder's desire to stay for a few minutes in the baby's place. Instead of tugging at the child and asking him to behave himself, pour milk formula into the bottle, swaddle him in a blanket and shake him in your arms. Most likely, he will quickly get bored with this game.
Step 8
When the children are a little older, try to find a few minutes so as not only to look after them, but to play joint games. Children will not learn to play with each other themselves; they need to be taught this by offering games according to their age. Let the elder be the bus driver, and you and the child are the passengers. If the older boy is playing soldiers, offer "medical assistance" to the wounded in battle with the younger daughter. But remember that an older child should have his own territory, a corner. Protect him from the cravings of the baby to his favorite toys and children's valuables.
Step 9
Several months will pass, and you will notice that the most difficult thing is behind - a mode, favorite games and traditions have appeared. And in a couple of years, you will no longer be able to imagine how you could live with just one child in your family!
