Life consists not only of bright, joyful events. People have to deal with problems, troubles and grief. For example, due to the death of a loved one. What to do if a woman cannot calm down after the death of her beloved husband?
Instructions
Step 1
Dealing with grief is not easy, especially for vulnerable, impressionable people. Sometimes they experience the death of a loved one so hard that they can become severely depressed. To prevent this from happening, relatives and friends must help them cope with grief.
Step 2
Experiences, mental suffering due to the loss of a loved one is a normal and natural phenomenon. It would be strange if the widow did not mourn the deceased husband, especially if he loved her and cared for her. However, after some time, when the most painful emotions subside, it is necessary to help the grieving woman gradually begin to return to her usual way of life.
Step 3
Friends and relatives should delicately, but persistently instill in her: nothing can be corrected with tears and worries. What happened is terrible, but it is impossible to bring a deceased person back to life. The torment of a woman will not help her deceased spouse, and she will certainly be severely damaged. It is not for nothing that many doctors say: "All diseases are from nerves."
Step 4
In no case should you constantly feel sorry for the widow, shed tears with her, saying: "Oh, why are you in such misfortune!" This is permissible only in the first days after the death of a spouse, when emotions are strongest and most painful. And in a later period, such sympathy will only drive the woman into depression.
Step 5
When communicating with a widow, one should not talk about the deceased, remember what a good spouse he was. Such talk is like salt to a wound to a grieving woman. Instead, you need to try in every possible way to distract her from such memories, interest her in something, try to get her positive emotions. Friends should often invite her to get-togethers in cafes, shopping, beauty salons, fitness clubs. We must insist that the widow, at least for a short time, go somewhere far away from those places where everything reminds of her ex-husband. Ideally - on a foreign tour, where there will be a lot of new impressions.
Step 6
One should not take the initiative in introducing her to single men. A widow can be very offended, angry, regarding this as disrespect for the memory of the deceased. Instead, one should unobtrusively, delicately lead her to the idea that after the death of her husband, she should not put an end to her personal life.
Step 7
If a widow needs help, it must be provided, but within reasonable limits. You do not need to completely free her from homework, take on the solution to all her problems. After all, the more free time and energy a grieving woman has, the more often she will remember her spouse, with all the ensuing consequences. No wonder they say: "Work is the best distraction from grief."
