To understand why a child has a bad relationship with classmates, it is necessary to discuss this situation with him and try to help him. It is necessary to figure out why, how and where did this situation arise?
Traits of baby victims
Inappropriate behavior and emotions. Usually, a rogue toddler endures bullying for a long time, even when it would be possible to fight back. But, when the "cup is overfilled", they can arrange a real massacre over a trifle.
Increased sensitivity. Whatever the outcast kid does, for him the main task will not be the result, but the reaction of others. Such a child can leave the section or circle only because he was reprimanded.
Physical disabilities. Babies with birthmarks or scars on the face, suffering from strabismus and disorders of the musculoskeletal system are rejected.
Untidiness and slovenliness. Smell of stale laundry, baggy, oversized clothes, blowing your nose during class. All this and much more is noticed by other kids and can become a significant cause of harassment and resentment.
It's time to discuss
If you do not know the reasons for your child's problem, you should personally talk to him about it, because he will have to "disentangle" the consequences and take the necessary measures. The task of the parents is to analyze the situation and propose the correct version of behavior.
If the child is ready to accept your help, consider the situations that are happening to him. Ask him: What are you saying? How do you behave? What do you feel? The essence of the questions and answers is to convey to the kid - his behavior can provoke his classmates to do bad things.
Survival
After finding out the reasons and talking, it is necessary to help the child find new ways of responding to a bad situation. Think together how events would develop if another, well-adapted child was in such a situation. What would he do and say? Can your toddler do the same?
Sometimes it is rudeness and violence that can be the only way out of difficult situations that require self-defense.
Errors
Parental misbehavior can also lead to child persecution. Usually the mistakes of the parents are as follows:
Parents think their child is always right. Experiment: Write down a few of your child's complaints about classmates and your responses to those complaints. If in most cases you justify the child, then you are unconsciously creating problems for him.
Parental intervention. Parents think that they should constantly monitor the child and always intervene in his problems. In fact, parental intervention tells classmates that the child is weak, inferior and helpless without a "mommy." As a result, such a child has a lower status and respect in the circle of peers.
Own experience. Usually the parents' advice is based on their own experience. A child who has his own character and mental makeup loses the flexibility of behavior, because actions that are incompatible with his character are unnatural for him.
Long-term resentment. If a child comes to his parents and tells them that Petya offended him, the parents say something like: “This Petya has not given you a pass for several years. Do you remember how he was then … . Such vindictiveness of adults does not allow the child to forget the bad incidents that happened to him.
