Raising children is not easy work. It becomes especially difficult for parents when a child is capricious, asks for the impossible, gets angry, etc. How to properly respond to negative emotions to help your child cope with them? How to share your baby's emotions? We learn to listen to our children correctly.
Instructions
Step 1
Always listen thoughtfully to what your child is telling you. It is foolish to demand from him sincerity with you, if before that you constantly listened to him inattentively. Just speaking out often helps adults too. So why not try to be sympathetically silent while listening to the child? It is important not only to say, "I am listening to you," but to really do it. Face your child. It is advisable that your eyes are at the same level. Turn off the TV and music to prevent your child from speaking.
Step 2
Take your time to ask questions and give advice. First, share your feelings with your child. Remember the golden rule: grief shared with someone becomes less, and happiness - more. Instead of asking questions, it is better to use expressions such as: "yes?", "Hmm …", "wow!" and the like. Perhaps the child does not need your advice at all, or he may find a way out of the situation himself, while he tells it to you.
Step 3
Under no circumstances should the child's feelings be denied. Let him get upset, angry, offended. Stop yourself from wanting to say: “don't cry,” “stop,” “you are being stupid,” and so on. The more you try to simply drive away the negative experiences of the child, the more upset he will become. Instead, help your child identify and name their emotions: "this is awful!", "You are really sad." When a child hears the name of what he is feeling, it becomes easier for him; he feels that you have understood and accepted him.
Step 4
If the child demands something impossible at the moment, leave logical arguments aside. Better acknowledge the child's desire ("I would really like to have candy right now"). Well in such cases it helps to fantasize: what would happen if the child's wish came true right now. For example: "it would be cool if I was a sorceress and could conjure a huge mountain of candy right now", develop this magical story with your child. Such fantasies help to cheer up the child, treat the situation with humor.
Step 5
At first glance, all these steps seem simple. But automatically we are used to acting differently. Reread these tips regularly and practice implementing them.
