Falling in love is a feeling that cannot be controlled. Nobody chooses whom to fall in love with. This happens on an energetic, physical or mental level. This is what everyone should feel in life. But not everyone manages to meet love, which will accompany them all their lives. And to survive parting is backbreaking work. It is a struggle with oneself.
Parting is always disappointment, pain, regret, no matter how desperate it may sound.
When you take this step, you understand with your head that this is correct, but, as they say, you cannot order your heart. And no matter how selfish this person was, but it was him that you fell in love with, in spite of everything. "They love it not for something, but in spite of it."
With life experience, you realize that this is really so. You cannot choose the person to whom you want to give all the tenderness and care. Often we like the completely opposite type of people, however, we experience real, sincere feelings only for those to whom we are drawn in both body and soul.
There are many reasons why people break up. For example, someone else appeared in the chosen one, love relationships smoothly flowed into friendships, the person turned out to be not what you imagined him to be, and many other individual nuances.
Whatever the reason for the breakup, at first you will miss this person, you will constantly think about whether you did the right thing, or maybe not worth it? At such moments, the heart literally breaks from the inside, there is no face on you, everyone is interested in what happened.
Remember one thing: if you really want to do something, then, without hesitation, because thoughts ruin us, do it, of course, there is a possibility that you will regret what you have done, but it is better at times. Because the thoughts of what could have done and everything to fix or fix, but chickened out, will accompany you for a very long time.
The most difficult test that falls on the human lot in terms of relationships is to let go of the person with whom you are in love. The main thing is not to stoop to insults in his direction, this will only push you away from yourself. If this happens, try to keep only pleasant memories in the memory of this person.
After parting, in no case be left alone with yourself. You will start flipping through photos in your smartphone, reading correspondence, watching missed calls. And then you will be covered with a hurricane of memories. Delete anything that reminds you of the chosen one. Do not finish yourself off with your own hands.
Meet your friends, tell them about your life, take a walk, start playing sports. In general, make sure that you are alone with yourself only in your sleep. Chatting with friends who have a good personal life will also remind you of your relationship, so avoid it at first. Take care of yourself.
It is not for nothing that they say that mental pain is many times stronger than physical pain.
And remember one more important rule! No one changes, if everything suits him in a relationship, then a person is looking for what he lacks. And he will keep doing it over and over again. Overpower yourself, you cannot forgive treason.
Immerse yourself in your work. You look, and you will get to the promotion! Time does not heal, it erases the remnants of the past.
You need a splash of emotions! Visit places where you can shout with all your might to throw out all the negativity.
In no case, do not stop caring for yourself. Who needs a girl who doesn't look after herself? Life is such a thing, maybe you will meet that very one, precisely after parting, and he will bring you back to life, filling it with joy and ringing laughter.
And yet, if your partner does not suit you in something, you should know that he will not change. Either you accept the person as he is, or you don't.
The choice is yours.
