Our life is full of surprises, unfortunately, not only pleasant ones. Sometimes it happens that a loved one, with whom all hopes and plans for the future were connected, suddenly informs you that you need to leave forever. It is quite clear that your tears or persuasion will not lead to anything good. In such a situation, one thing remains - to forget him. But how to forget the person whom you loved very much and were ready to do anything for him?
Necessary
Willpower, love of life
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, understand that living, reveling in your suffering, with continuous pain in your soul, is not the best way to continue to exist without a loved one. There is no need to constantly fiddle with your spiritual wound, endlessly shifting from place to place his things or gifts that were once presented to him. Why do you re-read old postcards, and then cry into your pillow at night, listening to the song that was a symbol of your love? There is no need to try by all means to keep in the memory of a loved one, engaging in self-torture. Find the strength to say "stop, I don't need this." In your case, time is the best doctor.
Step 2
Many breakup survivors continue to idolize their ex. But think about it … Who do you really love? Let's not dissemble and be honest. Didn't you have any conflict situations at all and he never offended you? Surely there were such cases when I wanted to slam the door loudly and leave myself. Get away from the fact that he is unfair, does not understand and does not feel you. It was so? It was … So why, when we need to forget a loved one, we remember only the most romantic moments of the relationship?
Unfortunately, this is female psychology. Resurrecting pictures of the past in our memory, enjoying a fabulous illusion, we forget about reality. No one says that the former lover was a monster, but the fact that everything was cloudless in the sky of your relationship is an outright lie to yourself. If this is not so, then think about whether you loved a real person or an invented image inspired by the dreams of youth and excessive romance? In this case, the question "how to forget a person whom you loved very much" will cease to bother you, because - whom to forget? Well, yes, there was someone, there was a relationship, but now - this is a turned page and there is no need to re-read it again and again.
Step 3
In the end, radically change your life: change your hairstyle, your mobile number. Take a vacation from work and go on vacation to some exotic country where you have long dreamed of visiting. If this option does not suit you for one reason or another, then just walk more or do yoga (they say it helps a lot). Try, at least for a while, to exclude from your life all things that evoke sadness and melancholy: melodramas, sad music, etc. Try to think positively, because the white light did not converge on it like a wedge. Take a look around: how beautiful this world is, how many interesting meetings and amazing discoveries you still have ahead of you.
