Parting with a loved one is never easy for anyone. Regardless of whether you are leaving or leaving you, it is difficult. But the one who makes the choice has certain advantages. He has time to think things over and get ready. It is in his power to make his departure less painful. You may not be able to do this without hurting someone else, but it depends on you how honestly and conscientiously you act.
Necessary
Confidence in your own decision
Instructions
Step 1
Think it over again. Write down why you are making this decision. Ask yourself why you entered into this relationship, why did you choose this particular person? What has changed for you? Do you really want to leave, or is this your way of letting the other know that they need to change? If you are firmly convinced that this relationship has no future, get ready to break up. If you are in a situation where your partner is physically or emotionally overwhelming you, you should not give vent to your feelings. If you are in danger, you need to run immediately, not leave.
Step 2
Make a number of important decisions about your personal future. Are you ready to deal with the financial side of the situation or continue to rely on a partner? Do you have a place to live or do you know where your partner might move after a breakup? Do you have joint responsibilities and how are you going to share this responsibility?
Step 3
Is there someone who can support your partner at this moment? If you are afraid that the one you are leaving may harm themselves with destructive behavior, perhaps it is worth making sure that someone close to him is there? You shouldn't discuss your decision with one of his friends before you talk to your partner, but it makes sense to ask someone to come or call after your conversation.
Step 4
Tune in to a face-to-face conversation. Prepare to respond to numerous "why?" If you are afraid that emotions will "overwhelm" you, state your reasons in writing, but do not send them by email under any circumstances! Don't blame your partner for how things turned out. Talk about your relationship, not who is good and who is bad. Talk about your feelings, say that you also hurt and bitter, but this is a necessary decision in order for both of you to be happy. Tell your ex that you don't mean to him and want him to do well.
Step 5
Provide your partner with your plan for ending the relationship. Show him that you have thought it over, but do not forget that he, too, has a say in matters concerning the social side of your relationship. Come to an agreement.
Step 6
Don't "run away" from your partner, but don't give him hope either. Be kind and polite, but don't let the feelings of guilt or over-responsibility be aroused in you. You may be able to maintain a friendly relationship, but it will take effort on both sides. Be prepared for the fact that your partner does not want to "stay friends." You made your decision, he has the right to make his own.
