The modern rhythm of life often forces both parents to work at work from early morning until late at night. Accordingly, adolescents who come home from school are often left to their own devices. And what they sometimes do at home is known only to them, but when their parents return from work, they may find at home a complete mess and chaos. So how do you teach a teenager to be in order?
Instructions
Step 1
Whatever mess you see in the apartment, try to react calmly. Don't make scandals. Remember - the more you shout at children and adolescents, the less they will understand and accept calm communication.
Step 2
Ask your teen how his day went, what he did in the evening. Find out the cause of the mess. Ask him not to arrange this in the future and this time he will definitely clean up after himself. If detailed incidents are repeated more than once, then explain that it is unpleasant for you to be in such a mess. Let the child understand that it is necessary to keep the house clean, if not for himself, then at least for the sake of the rest of the family.
Step 3
Try to find useful things for your child. If he has no lessons, let him be busy with something. This will allow him to use his energy for peaceful purposes.
Step 4
But sometimes nothing like this happens, a sudden big mess does not form in the house. Clutter builds up gradually. The child simply does not put things away after himself, takes out something and does not put it in place, scatters clothes and shoes. And if, for example, the parents don't clean it up, then gradually the house will turn into one big mess, in which it will be impossible to find anything. What to do in this case: First, try to explain to your child why you need to clean up after you.
Step 5
If that doesn't work, try taking more drastic measures. Just do not use physical force under any circumstances. If you were on the heels and cleaned up after you talked to your teenager, stop doing it. The thing is lying around for several days in front of a teenager, and then, most likely, he will remove it.
Step 6
If this does not happen, and the teenager continues to scatter his things all over the apartment and does not clean up after himself, try to influence him in his own way. Place something large enough right in the aisle. In other words, drop it there. But do it in such a way that it especially interferes and creates obstacles for everyone. It is impossible for a teenager to ignore this. If he is upset about this, use an example of his own behavior. After such a pictorial persuasion, he will most likely not only clean things up behind him, but also put in place what you threw yourself. Such a simple method can easily help teach the child to order and avoid unnecessary scandals and quarrels. And in adolescence, they are especially acutely felt.
