There are many conflicting rumors about a guest marriage. Some argue that this union is possible only for lazy, unconcerned people who think only of themselves and have no values in life. Others, on the contrary, believe that all the pros and cons of a guest marriage can help in the implementation of many plans, protect the couple from family conflicts, and bring romance and sensuality into the relationship.
In general, how many people - so many opinions. So what is a guest marriage really? What can it be? And most importantly - a child in a guest marriage, is it possible? How will the baby feel, being away from one of the parents, coming only to stay for a few days? Let's try to figure it out.
A guest marriage is a legal marriage in which the spouses live apart (in different apartments, in different cities and countries), but at the same time visit each other, spend leisure and vacation together, celebrate holidays together and meet with their parents. Otherwise, each of them has their own personal life, which does not imply any family relationships and obligations. Sometimes it happens that a husband and wife have a common living space, but the household is individual. But the presence in the passport of the corresponding stamp and loyalty to each other are a prerequisite for a guest marriage.
Proponents of "guest" relationships argue that such a marriage can solve basic family problems without harming the spouses. In particular, they believe, it relieves newlyweds from the daily bustle of everyday life, provides personal freedom and does not take away the energy to solve family problems. In addition, people living apart do not have the usual reasons for quarrels for many, because there is no reason for such “popular” questions as “Where have you been and why did you come back so late?” or "Do you value your job more than your family?"
The status of a wife in a guest marriage does not imply a "cycle of women in nature." She does not feel like a cook, a maid and a dishwasher in one person, but on the contrary, she is always desirable and interesting to her partner. And the husband in this case is not a "twin" of the sofa and a logical "continuation" of the remote control from the TV. He is always clean-shaven, fit and still sexually attractive.
Opponents of the guest union say that it falls apart at the very first difficulties, even if they are temporary (illness, financial crisis in the family, etc.), because it is based on contractual relationships, and not time-tested feelings. In addition, people who do not agree with this form of marriage justify their opinion by the fact that such an open relationship is more beneficial for a man - he does not owe anything to anyone. And the burden of raising children born to such spouses falls on women's shoulders. While in a traditional family, these concerns are divided equally.
To the negative side of the guest model of marriage, his opponents also refer to the absence in our country of favorable conditions (economic and social) for its normal functioning. They also believe that these relationships are mostly based on legalized satisfaction of sexual desires of partners. And, as soon as the “quality” of bed pleasures disappears or decreases, the marriage itself ceases to exist, because the spouses are no longer united by anything.
