Modern people have much more opportunities for communication than their not very distant ancestors in previous centuries. It even happens that through the latest technical means (like the Internet) men and women from different parts of the world learn about each other, and warm feelings and desire to continue relations arise between them. Will this "love at a distance" turn out to be something worthwhile, or is it worth immediately weeding out its fragile shoots?
Can distance be an obstacle to love
The question of the possibility of the very existence of love, when both participants in such a relationship are separated by many kilometers, is more philosophical than practical. In this case, everything mostly depends on the specific circumstances and on the actions of both lovers.
Of course, this type of relationship can arise in a variety of situations. It happens that a couple met on social networks, on a website for singles or on another similar virtual resource. All their common "property" often consists in correspondence, showing each other photographs, but at the same time they have not met outside the Internet reality.
In this case, each of them will have a greater tendency to idealize the other. In addition, for them, there is a great risk of falling in love with the invented, and not with the real, image of their counterpart. Also, absolutely no one will give a guarantee that at least one person in such a couple is not a fraud, for the sake of some not noble goal, "treating" a friend / pen pal with a fictional story.
In any case, virtual acquaintances - before starting to plan a joint future and live with such illusions - should meet at least once outside the virtual space. Such a date (or better - several) will allow us to draw certain conclusions: is their relationship really worth something, or will the two of them never get along. If the first option turns out to be relevant, then it will be necessary to make decisions about transferring love from the Internet into real life.
It happens that the scenario for the development of relations is somewhat different. The couple met on vacation, on a business trip, etc. - in a word, it was face-to-face, not virtual. It was good for them together, but the time together came to an end, and everyone needs to return to their cities, to an already established life. Will the relationship survive in such conditions?
How to keep your feelings away from your loved one
To begin with, the two need to talk frankly and admit whether they both really believe that there are any serious feelings between them, or whether it was just entertainment during the vacation / business trip. In the first case, it is not a sin to exchange contact information and continue intensive communication, even while being far from each other.
It is also important for both lovers to understand: distance is a really serious hindrance to their feelings, especially while they are still too fragile, and it is not known whether they will develop into something more stable and strong. Therefore, if everyone in a couple really dreams of a joint future, they will need to make a lot of efforts to maintain love and sometimes even make some sacrifices.
First of all, they should take advantage of every opportunity for meaningful communication. It is better to do this not by phone or email, but via Skype or other similar programs, where it is possible to connect a webcam and see each other. In this case, they will be able to meet the need for visual contact to a certain extent.
It is also important for them to be as much involved in each other's life as possible. Every little thing matters here. It is worth remembering important dates and events for a loved one / beloved, up to the birthdays of his / her fish, cat or dog. A good memory in this matter will only contribute to the greater rapprochement of the couple and the strengthening of their relationship.
Every opportunity to meet should be seized. One date is worth more than a hundred Skype calls and thousands of emails. Spending time together is as productive as possible. How exactly - the couple decides. The main thing is for each of them to receive the necessary emotional charge from communication and get to know the other better.
In this case, you should not avoid small disagreements. Yes, you should not conflict with a stormy showdown, but visualizing existing contradictions is much better than trying to silence those things in which the lovers disagree with each other. In the second case, both will simply silently accumulate resentment against each other, and in the first - with successful overcoming of "inconsistencies" - they will become even dearer and closer.
If you follow the above simple guidelines, it is quite possible to maintain a long-distance relationship. Moreover, they will have a real chance to transform into something beautiful and lasting for many years.
