When talking about sex with children, many parents feel uncomfortable, so they try to translate the topic of conversation as soon as possible. But if moms and dads want their child to have the right attitude towards intimacy, they should talk about it.
Conversation with the baby
At the age of 3-5, children begin to ask the first questions about how they came about. From this point on, parents somehow have to touch on the topic of sex. Children should be prepared to talk about physical intimacy from an early age, but it is necessary to convey information to the child in the volume and in the form that he can perceive. For example, it is enough for a three-year-old to know that children come from the great love between dad and mom. If the child asks additional questions, talk about the seed that the man plants in the woman. This is usually enough for children under 5 years old.
Features of men and women
By the age of 7, many children know the word "sex". The child hears it from the TV, from classmates or older friends. However, the meaning of the word for most children remains unclear. The modern child has many ways to obtain information about sex, but the quality of this information can vary. If you do not want your child to learn unnecessary, "dirty" information about the intimate sphere of life, tell him about sex yourself in a form appropriate for his age. Children 7-8 years old can be shown children's books and encyclopedias, which describe the structure of a man and a woman, and also tells how the conception of a child occurs.
Do not be shy
Emphasize the moral and emotional side of sex. The child must understand that intimacy is part of life between two loving people. Sex leads to the birth of children, therefore having sexual intercourse imposes responsibility on the man and woman.
The child's perception of the first information about sex largely depends on how her parents are presented. Calm and confidential conversation on this topic will help the child to form the right attitude to sex issues. Children should not feel embarrassed so that this topic does not seem taboo to them.
Warn about the consequences
In early adolescence, a child is unlikely to come to ask his parents about sex, because you can find out everything on the Internet. Therefore, moms and dads should raise this topic on their own initiative. Modern adolescents begin to have sex early enough, so you should tell in advance about unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, as well as methods of contraception.
It is desirable that dad talk to the son, and mom to talk to the daughter. This way parents and children will not feel unduly embarrassed. Tell your child that he can turn to you with any question about the relationship between men and women, and you will always be ready to help him.
