Not everyone wants to be a family despot, but even the most timid and self-sufficient people need to at least listen to their opinion. How to build the lines of influence correctly? You can only influence the one who needs something, so let's look at how to use the needs of a partner to get what you want from him using Maslow's pyramid.
Instructions
Step 1
The sphere of human needs is based on physiological needs, first of all, thirst, hunger and sexual desire. Partners are trained like Pavlov's dog using all methods, but this method is the least subtle. So, some wives in their youth deprive their husbands of close relationships for the slightest offense, the same is done by husbands in an older age in relation to wives who do not please. However, it is much more effective to use this method positively, that is, in response to concessions, to give a beloved an intoxicating, enchanting intimacy.
Step 2
Higher in the hierarchy is the need for security. Every person wants to live comfortably, with a stable way of life, without fear of anything. When an offended wife suddenly refuses to cook for her husband, she unconsciously breaks his everyday habits, causing pain. This is not always a sensible policy, in negative situations it is better to behave neutral, and reward the slightest positive changes with your husband's favorite dish or the one with which you have romantic associations.
Step 3
Let's consider the next two levels together, because they are close in meaning - these are the needs for respect and love. Insults hurt, and the well-known question "Do you love me?" with subsequent attempts to manipulate, they spoil the blood of both men and women. But at this level, many people are very dependent and vulnerable. The encouragement of correct behavior is achieved through sincere praise, especially with strangers, gentle touches and loving glances.
Step 4
The need for self-realization crowns the pyramid. The wrong behavior here is ridiculing tastes, ignoring the spiritual needs and aspirations of a loved one. After each decision you need, do not skimp on signs of attention to your partner's creativity. This can show up in small things, for example, you laugh at his successful jokes and retell them to other people with a link to the author. It is also good to create conditions for your loved one for creativity in the area where he is really talented.
Step 5
Of course, you can achieve the tasks set by depriving your partner of what is necessary. But you can truly strengthen and enrich relationships only by trying to satisfy the needs of a loved one in the upper class. Selfless and unselfish love will help you guess what to do in a given situation.
