Living with an egoist can be a nightmare for someone he can bend under him. As a rule, from a young age, wayward children love to command their parents. And they shrug their shoulders and refuse to understand that the reason was their indulgence in a capricious child. Can you change your selfish character?
Instructions
Step 1
You will hardly be able to re-educate an adult egoist, especially if you are used to being in his shadow and occupying the bottom step of the podium. From time to time, switch his attention to yourself. For example, the next time he goes into a long story about his own troubles, start whimpering over a broken heel too, or complain about an unpleasant conversation with colleagues. If he starts interrupting, just keep talking. Your task: to show that he is on a par with you, to shift the focus to yourself.
Step 2
Firmly and without unnecessary lyrical digressions, explain to the egoist that he is behaving disrespectfully towards you. Use specific examples to support your arguments. If you reproach him for not giving a word to say, ask him to remember what you talked about at breakfast. Conduct the conversation in a constructive manner, do not attack him with shouts or insults. In no case do not make a scandal, otherwise he will put you on his own "black list" did not appreciate his fine mental organization.
Step 3
If he does not care about you and literally makes you constantly stand at the stove and indulge his gastronomic pride, then the next time you, say, stay late at work, warn him that you will come home hungry. Then just calmly ask him to cook you dinner. No need to plead or take a victim position. One "please" will be enough. This will help him, at least for a while, put himself in your place. Some selfish people need to be given the right to choose, for example, ask him to cook a side dish or order food from a delivery service.
Step 4
Thinking that he is behaving in a wrong way will not immediately lead him to a change in behavior. Give the selfish time. Perhaps he will soon reassess the situation himself and pay more attention to you. The main thing is not to talk about his narcissism every day. Better take care of your own appearance and learn how to manage your free time. Think about healthy love for yourself and your own interests, needs, and desires.
