It so happens that the relationship between two people, which seemed to be cloudless, suddenly ends. No matter why, there can be many reasons - from extremely subjective to objective insurmountable obstacles. It happens. We are simply faced with the fact that the beautiful thing that was has gone irrevocably and will never return, and we just need to let go of the loved one, so that both of you feel better.
It is necessary
- - patience
- - sedative
- - work / hobby
Instructions
Step 1
Remember all those moments that brought you closer together. It is necessary to allocate an evening in which you will be absolutely alone, so that no one bothers you. Dedicate him to writing a letter that you will never send. Describe in it all the good moments that were, and then burn this letter.
Step 2
Think about what, in fact, it will be much better and easier for both. It's just that someone has to take the first step to make it easier for another. Cut off all contact with your once loved one and do not allow any connection. At first it will be painfully bitter, but then it will only get better, the most difficult thing is the first couple of months.
Step 3
In case the previous two steps didn't help you, dig in your memory. You are bound to find many unpleasant things associated with this person. Use them to cultivate hatred towards him. Forget everything except this, leave only hatred and aggression. Think about the pain and hurt that he caused you. Make him guilty, understand, in the end, that it hurts only you now. This should whip up pride in making this period easier for you.
Step 4
Take all your free time that you have in constructive pursuits. Study the language and do the work with a double zeal, sign up for courses - do whatever makes your day easier. In the evening, resort to the help of sedatives and sleeping pills - the most difficult time of the day for you will be the evening and night.
Step 5
Take yourself a little vacation and go where you always wanted, but for some reason did not have enough time. Dedicate this time to yourself, completely and completely, make sure that not a single drop of negativity can seep through your desire to live free and happily. Let the words "happiness" and "freedom" become your credo for this period.
Step 6
If all the previous cases have failed and failed, contact a qualified psychoanalyst. Remember that this is the only person who can help you, so you don't need to be too secretive. The more information you give him, the more complete help - just help, not just support - you can count on.
