Children usually experience the breakdown of the family acutely. Especially if the parents after a divorce cannot decide in any way with whom it is better to live the child. Cases when the court takes into account primarily the material capabilities of one of the parents are not so rare. Meanwhile, it is better to resolve this issue peacefully, so that the child understands that both parents still love him, that they remain mom and dad for him, despite the fact that they no longer live together. Many child psychologists believe that it is better for a child of preschool and primary school age to live with his mother. Of course, if she does not lead an asocial lifestyle.
It is necessary
conditions that allow the child to provide normal learning and development
Instructions
Step 1
The court often makes a decision in favor of the parent who has better financial opportunities. Of course, the judgment must be made primarily in the best interests of the child. But the court is obliged to consider the situation from different angles. Reassure the court that the child has sufficient conditions for normal development.
Step 2
Try to resolve the issue peacefully. Agree with the child's father that the baby will live with you. Discuss where he will study and under what conditions. It may very well be that the father will agree to pay for part of the classes or even take over the child's education. Unfortunately, there are fathers for whom the child is not so important as the opportunity to annoy his mother. Make it clear that such a number will not work in your case and try to convince your ex-husband that the interests of the child are first of all, and that the material side of the matter is not always decisive.
Step 3
Clean up your apartment. It doesn't have to be your property. This can be a community housing where you are a tenant, a departmental or private apartment, or even a dorm room. The child should have a separate bed and a place to play and practice. You can even select a corner where the baby will store his toys and books in a very small room. Teach your child to keep things in order. Of course, you must set a good example for him.
Step 4
Get the support of your kindergarten teacher or school teacher. If a disputable situation arises, they may be invited to court as witnesses, or they may be asked to write a testimonial about your child. In the description, they will need to indicate the conditions in which the baby lives, as well as the form in which he goes to school or kindergarten. Usually there are no problems with this, because teachers write what they see. Try to keep your child looking neat at all times, that he has enough clothes and underwear, and that everything is in good condition.
Step 5
Prepare to be visited by a juvenile committee or a child rights inspector. In the event of a serious conflict with former relatives, this is almost inevitable. Try to make a good impression on them. Don't forget to ask for documents. Do not allow outdoor shoes to enter the room. By inviting visitors to take off their shoes, you will solve two problems at once: show that you are the mistress of the situation and make it clear that it is customary to keep order in your house.
Step 6
Take the guests around the apartment, tell us how the child lives, show the corner with toys. You may be asked to open the refrigerator. There should always be food there. But don't let strangers get in there without permission. Be calm and confident, even if uninvited guests try to take the child away. Resist it calmly but firmly.
Step 7
The most important thing is to enlist the support of your child. With this usually there is no problem, if you really pay enough attention to him, are interested in his affairs. Even very young children are well versed in adult relationships. The kid simply cannot imagine that it is possible to live without a mother, even if other relatives have a large, good apartment and a lot of things. Explain to him that he has the right to decide for himself with whom he lives. However, a senior preschooler or schoolchild can already fully assess the consequences of their decision. In any case, the child will appreciate that you gave him the right to choose, and this increases your chances.
