Some people go to great lengths to build relationships with friends, colleagues, and partners when their communication with their parents leaves a lot to be desired. They compromise with strangers, but do not allocate time and energy to establish contact with mom and dad.
Instructions
Step 1
If your relationship with your parents does not go well, you should not blame everything on their obstinate nature and the difference in generations. The problem is most likely in you too. Think about how you react to the advice and guidance your parents give you. Maybe you do not recognize their authority and treat their words with condescension or even irritation. This is the wrong attitude towards mom and dad. Think about the fact that they were already at your age, which means they can imagine what problems you are facing.
Step 2
Also, do not forget that your parents are worried about you. With their remarks and, as it seems to you, nagging, in fact, they can express their concern for your fate. Already for their care and love, one cannot write off their parents. Appreciate them, because hardly anyone else will be able to accept you and forgive you the same way. Promise yourself that you will be more tolerant of your parents, and the first step to building a relationship with them will already be taken. Realize that you are hurting them with your disobedience.
Step 3
Understand that it becomes more important for your parents to feel that you need them over the years. Therefore, they may try to interfere with your affairs in order to become a part of your life in this way. It is in your power to change the situation. Begin to let your parents know about your problems yourself. Ask them for advice, tell them what is happening to you. Then they will not attempt to ferret out your secrets on their own.
Step 4
Try to understand your mom and dad. Put yourself in their shoes. They see that technology is developing at a breakneck pace, the pace of life is accelerating. With age, it becomes more and more difficult for them to maintain their former positions and navigate the vast sea of information. They feel helpless, old-fashioned, and hope that their children will help them stay on top of what is happening. Therefore, it is worth paying attention to your parents, while showing patience and care. If your parents are determined to be nostalgic and tell you about the old days, show genuine interest. Understand that their fate is part of your family history. Don't neglect your heritage.
Step 5
It happens that parents try to get more attention and begin to manipulate their children, hiding behind age or illness. In this situation, it is difficult to maintain a good relationship with mom or dad, to satisfy their needs, to show respect, but at the same time not allowing themselves to be deceived and used. You should not indulge in endless whims, but you also cannot not respond to complaints. You can offer to seek qualified medical help with you. This way you will not offend your parents and do not allow yourself to be manipulated.
Step 6
Try to stay close to your parents. Share with them the details of your own life and be sure to ask about their affairs. Show attention to your mom and dad's personalities. Give them compliments, long-awaited gifts. Imagine that you are going to win the sympathy of a new friend, and think about what you would do for this. Remember that relationships with family members require self-improvement. You can't just take your parents for granted. Then you can seriously regret it.
